I've been married to my husband for 2yrs in May we will have been together for 5yrs. I have 1 12yr old daughter from a previous marriage and he has 3 daughters ages 12yr, 9yr, and 6yr from his previous marriage. I have never dated a guy with children till I met him and I sometimes I really wish I never had. We moved in together about a 1.5yrs after we started dating and thats when it all started. His ex is a living nightmare I can hardly even describe all the lies and attempts she has done and continues to do to purposely try to keep the kids father out of their lives. Our first year of marriage consisted of the him and his ex in court with my husband fighting for custody of his kids because his ex continuosly breaks the court order and keeps the kids from him whenever she feels, she blocks all communication from him even though he purchased his kids a phone of their own she won't allow them to use it she turns it down or shuts it off. His ex refuses to give the kids any medical treatment when they are sick because she does not believe in it. The only treatment she will allow the children to recieve is what she gives and thats giving them a bunch of different herbs and adjusting them. But she is all anout putting the 9yr in therapy because she bite her fingernails and she she had the 12yr old put in therapy because she got upset at her mom because she went in her room and threw away some souvenir that she was keeping from a trip that she had taken with her dad & I (her mom knew what the things were and knew how much they meant to the child). She sends his kids around in summer clothes during the dead of winter, at times they will have no coats, hats, gloves, etc. Their clothes all come second hand and they are all either too big or too small for the kids or have holes or are covered in stains. My husband pays a signifigant amount of money in child support each week for all the kids; his ex owns her own chiropracting business. Instead of using it the child support money for what it is intended for she uses it to pay her house bills and car payment. Her kids are on reduced lunches, she receives the medical card, and ebt. Children services has already been called on her due to neglect. We have had to call the sheriffs dept on her and her parents numerous times. They would ride by the house and  places we would be when we had the kids and park down the road from our house and just sit their watching our house, they would send random people over from different churches they attend. During his time at the kids games, practices, ect. his ex would come try to sit with us like nothing has ever happened, or she would come walk off with the kids never say a word to him, or she call/text him asking if the kids can go home with her when she's told no she becomes irate and will start sending texts going off about how its not fair to the kids they want to be with her not him. She would try to text and call my husband and tell him what halloween, christmas, etc. decorations we could have up. The things we could and could not say, do, or wear at our home. My husband and I have had to block her on all our phones. She can only message now through a court ordered website. The situation is so crazy I just don't know how to handle it anymore. The older my husbands kids get the more they act like her. They are so disrespectful and treat people like garbage especially my husband. The kids run stories back and fourth; many times the stories are not even true. His kids are constantly blaming my daughter for everything they do even when she is not around. No matter how many times we talk to them about acting this way they just look at us like they could careless. They only want to talk to me, their dad, or his family when they want something that involves money. I am just really at a lose at what to do, I love my husband but all of this is just pushing me further & further away from him and his kids.