Spouses of Transgender Community Group

Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...

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Therapy

awife
awife

Tonight is our first visit with a therapist and I’m a nervous wreck!  My husband says “there’s no need to be nervous. Just say what you feel.”  Which is funny coming from someone who kept so many things hidden for so long.  He’s not nervous or anxious at all. 


I’m really afraid this will be our unraveling.  Or that I will be painted as the villain. 


Think of me at 8pm tonight and give me strength. 

17whoaminow
17whoaminow
IN my prayers.
Be your authentic self.
Be honest.
Don't own anything that isn't yours. Guilt, shame, responsibility.

You are not alone. You are in my thoughts and prayers today and tonight for peace and strength.
awife
awife
All went well. Better than I’d hoped. It was a great start and we both really liked the therapist. I managed not to be a blubbery mess but still say what I wanted to say.

I actually feel better and more hopeful today than I have in a long time.

Looking forward to going back.

And last night just before we went to sleep, he turned towards me and thanked me. For being supportive, for finding this therapist. For being here even though it’s hard. And that made me feel good.
17whoaminow
17whoaminow
WONDERFUL!!! I am so happy for you, this is a great first step.
1newstart
1newstart
I was thinking about you, and I am thrilled to hear everything went well and you feel hopeful.
firewalker42
firewalker42
that is great !! I was very unsure of going to therapy with my husband also at first.. It has helped us be open about our feelings and fears....it has helped me to talk about how i am feeling, where in the past I would just hold it all in......still have a LONG WAY to go but i am trying to focus on one day at a time...can't promise how or if I can stay with him at the end of this all....but for now I am trying to be supportive and accepting as I can for all of us......I just hope I have the strength to keep moving forward.
Keep up the therapy sessions, and keep moving forward....you got this!....hugs!
Cora
Cora
Thanks so great awife! I haven't heard many trans spouses saying that to their cis spouse so that's really wonderful! *hugs*
gallinarosa
gallinarosa
So glad to hear this went well for you. A good therapist that you both like can feel like a lifesaver. I have found that we have run into some walls with therapy, but so long as we are trying to stay on top of it, it is still helpful. Like I have found that my spouse is moving very slowly in therapy. I need him to be more open and able to communicate (both share AND listen) better. So my progress has slowed because I can't go much farther without connecting better with him. So our therapist has recommended finding a marriage counselor to move some of that along more quickly while she remains focused on each of us individually. Problem is that because it was so easy to find HER, I didn't realize how hard it was to find another good therapist!