Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
I wanted so bad to post this on Facebook to share with my friends and family what I'm going through... but I couldn't bring myself to press the "post" button. I feel like there's something wrong with me. I need to share this somewhere I think.
"Four years ago I married the love of my life. Our relationship hasn't always been easy and sometimes it's been downright painful emotionally, but I thought we could talk about everything and weather any storm. Today, however, I'm very sad to say that I miss her. I hope that someday she fully becomes who she wants to be, and lives a very full and happy life. No, I'm not cutting her out of my life completely as some say I should, but I do feel like she's been pushing me further and further away or hoping that I can somehow get over being her spouse to become just a close friend, and I'm just not ready. I don't know how to do that right now. I'm not finished grieving the loss of what I thought our life was going to be like. I'm not finished losing her."
She had started transitioning 6 months after we got married without telling me until our 1 year anniversary. I thought that I had forgiven her for that... but she still never let me completely in. She assumed I wasn't comfortable with it. She's made so many assumptions. It makes me so sad. All I wanted to do was be by her side and set her up for success. Apparently, I did that in a way where she thought I was just trying to get my wants and was leaving her. I had no idea. She says that she wants us to be okay, but that our differences and challenges seem insurmountable. I'm so sad that it seems like she's not even willing to try. As much as I want to believe she's my person, maybe she isn't anymore... I'm so heartbroken.
why can't they get their heads around this?
I am dealing with this right now. I am 100% supporting my partner's transition, but she can't get her head around that. I keep finding out about things after the fact and have to remind her over and over again to talk to me. She believes i won't be there for her. The sad thing is that I am starting to distance myself from her because she won't be fully open with me. Yet she sees this as just another sign that she was right all along.