Hi friends. Haven't posted for a while. Haven't really intended to. Just don't have the emotional energy to respond to all your sad stories but I do read them and I do pray for you and I do thank God regularly for Athena and Jax and others who have continued to tell you the hard things that you need to hear. I second nearly every word they type. My relationship is far from perfect now, and I have no idea where it's going but I'm writing today to tell you one thing. If I have done anything right, it has been telling him the truth about who he is. He is a man. He is not a woman. He is not transgendered. He has believed a lie. His manhood is worth so much more than this cheap counterfeit, this pathetic, sick, mentally ill society is throwing at him. He is a father, a strong leader, a defender, a protector, a provider, a man. His thoughts of womanhood are false, lies. People who go along with him are misguided too. This is not real. This is deception. This is a false reality. There are very rare cases in which a person with male genitalia are actually female...VERY RARE. It is not every other man on the planet. It is not your husband. If he was masculine to begin with, he is a man now. It is loving to tell him the truth and remind him who he is and not go along with this lie. We always tell our kids that good friends don't encourage their friends to mistakes or do wrong. You are not obligated to go along with this. In fact, if you do, you will likely regret it and there will be no chance of helping him regain his true identity. His manhood. He is a man. I have refused from day one to go along with this and for many reasons my husband has presently decided not to walk out his original plan. Whether he does or he doesn't, I will not comply. I will not approve. I will not support. I will not go along. I will not indulge. I will not listen. I will not hear excuses. I will support him in getting help. I will help him find truth. I will stand strong on behalf of our family. I will not shame him or condemn him or embarrass him but I also will not indulge this wrong/bad behavior any more than I would indulge any other wrong behavior. I write this to support you in case you are not wanting to go along, in case you are wanting to take a stand against this, in case you need someone to tell you the truth. It is ok not to go along with him and in fact, imo, I believe that it is in both of your best interests to not go along with it. My situation is not great and my husband is behaving very angrily towards me and it appears in time that we will likely get divorced, but we are not living a lie and I am not having to put up with the disgusting, repulsive cross dressing. I wish you well. I pray for you, your husbands, your families. If you are dating, get out. If you don't have kids, don't ever do it with this sick person. If you are married, speak truth. It is the greatest, most loving gift you can give him, yourself and your family.