Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
So, I've been holding off sending in the divorce papers until my spouse has finished an important test for his PhD. Unfortunately, whenever it comes to this issue, my spouse seems to be able to sniff it out a mile away (I wish he could apply this to other feelings I have...but I digress). He confronted me about it about a week or so ago and we got into a fight.
He has been stressed out since then, but then this morning, he told me he had done a lot of thinking and he awknowledged that he needed to take the lead on this and that his happiness was important to make me happy. He asked me if I would stay with him until December while he took estrogen. It's already been stressful waiting for him to finish his test, so I'm definitely not hanging around until December. I said we could re-evaluate in a month, depending on when he started taking the pills. So, he took his first pill this morning.
It's funny, I know some people on here say that they fear that once their spouse starts, there's no going back. I kinda have the opposite fear, that the drama of the last two years has been for nothing. I'd be happier if this is something he truly needs.
He also said that he's ready to tell some of his closest friends. I'm really happy he's ready to talk to his friends because it's been so hard doing this alone.
I feel like I should be happy about this, but this just makes me feel more confused about this situation. Like, my spouse doesn't want to be a woman, but wants to take estrogen to cure his depression?
Not trying to be mean but just check Pinterest for estrogen benefits.
I wish I could overcome all this, but I've been living with so much pain for these past two years, I just don't know how to come out of it except for just leaving the relationship. This whole experience has been deeply confusing for me.
Here's to a more positive chapter in your life <3
It's definitely hard to not feel alone in the day-to-day. I know no one in real life who is going through this and really only relate to the people in this group. Hoping you will be starting a happier chapter in your life soon!
It was so bad, I couldn't sleep with him and I slept on the couch last night.
Even if it's just shampoo, it's a change that is unsettling to you. I've spent nights sleeping alone also, Cora, and they are terrible. Sending you strength and hugs!