Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
Quick question/poll...
Have any of you noticed a punishing theme in your partners behavior? I'm not talking about, oh poor pitiful you, why are you doing this to me. I'm talking about listening carefully to what he is saying. I'm doing this because you... or mom.. or dad... or... Is there an element of blame? Is there an element of punishing/pay back? I'm developing a theory, and I'd like your input. Thanks, Sisters. We don't have to know or like one another, but we are definitely sisters united by a shared experience. I feel like we are prisoners of war, and I will do whatever I reasonably can to help you escape and I will remember you forever once I have escaped. Much love.
No blame: He says that it's nothing I have done or didn't do because this was before me. He doesn't think it has to do with his mother, though I disagree because she was very dominant and his father had very little time in his life before passing away.
Obsession: He does EXACTLY what he promised not to do in the past. If we agreed that he should wait to open himself up to people until after the summer, he is doing it NOW all on his own. He said he wouldn't show his face on Instagram, he now puts up selfies almost daily. Things like that. It's like he can't stop himself. He keeps spending money on "her" even when we are in $20,000 debt.
Selfish: He keeps buying makeup, shoes and clothes for himself. He goes to the gender clinic even if I am waiting with dinner at home. His need to do this is more important to the impact it will have on our children and our marriage.
Delusional: He doesn't think that this will impact our kids negatively. He thinks that we can live like this forever. He thinks our marriage can adjust to this lifestyle forever. He thinks he's a WOMAN! (smh)
Wig are hot. they wear out. I told to just grow his hair out a little. Now is it down to her waist. She gets it straighter professionally and colored.
My fave nails keep falling off. She does get her nails done but they are kept at a shorter length. I can't find clip on ear rings. Again I gave in. I feel like it is all about her. I get the left overs. Her clothes take up more than half of our walk in clothest. He had a closet for his clothes and uniforms he must wear for work.