Hi! I'm new here, at my whits end, and don't even know where to begin..... I'm female and married to a transgender man who started hormone therapy in January. Getting to that point has been rocky enough and happened much sooner than I wanted it too. He was done waiting and went ahead with his initial appointment to start medical transition without really talking to me about it. Don't worry - I knew he was transgender before we got married in 2016 and that transitioning was on the horizon at some point.  I was just hoping to have some things paid off and life a little more organized before he started to transition. Fast forward a few months to now and his sex drive and mood swings are through the roof. So much so I don't know what mood he's going to be in from one minute to the next. He can go from loving, to clingy, to whiny, to horny, to angry, to  quiet, to sad, to tired in the time it takes me to kick off my heels! Our latest source of tension has been his libido. One minute he recognizes that it's extremely high and the next he gets incredibly cranky because I just want to be left alone. I try to accomodate his needs as much as I can (espsecially since I have a fairly high libido myself ever since my hysterectomy this past September) but man am I worn out! Today was a day I  just wanted to be left alone and it's only because I'm under a lot of stress at work right now and I am just absolutely exhausted in more ways than one. Which he knows and just this afternoon said to me "it's okay if you don't want to". So what happens tonight after dinner? He makes a request which I decline as politely as I can for the aforementioned reasons and whammo - up go his defensive walls, his nose in his phone, and his responses to my questions and attempts at talking to him become short/snippy followed by the silent treatment for the rest of the night. He usually gives me hugs and kisses before he leaves for work and tonight it was just a quick "bye" as he walked out the door. And this was just today! Every day and every week there's a new issue or concern or mood swing or what have you.

Also, come to find out (today, actually) his testosteron dose was way too high. The prescription label said 1mL once a week for 10 weeks (which is what his doctor also told him... I was there for the appointment) when it was supposed to be 0.75mL. So yes, everything should calm down once he starts getting the right amount of T. He's also, I found out over the weekend, been giving himself too much T each week and giving himself one line above the 1mL mark on a 3mL syringe.  So between both of those things he's been injecting himself with almost a double dose of T every week since the middle of January which has lead to a plethora of other issues as well.

You can begin to see why I'm soooo overhwlemed and tired and it's really hard for my cisgender friends to understand what I'm going through so I joined this site and and this group. I've felt so alone and hope I've found a place where I can get the support I need and then return the favor to someone else later on down the road....