I joined this group at the suggestion of my therapist. I was surprised to find there are so many others going through the same thing I am. I have been married to my spouse for 20 years and we have a 19 year old daughter together. It is the second marriage for us both. We both have a son and a daughter in their 30s from our first marriages. I fell so deeply in love with my husband, and he treated me like a queen. I moved from the northeast to the midwest to have a life together with him. Over the years, he started leaving little hints about himself, like that he might be bisexual. Then a few years later he told me he likes to dress in women's clothing when he is alone. I wasn't happy about it, but thought I could live with it. We had a great intimate life until his medications started making it difficult for him to be able to perform.No matter that I said there are many ways to make love and show affection, he started not wanting sex at all. Then my oldest daughter found a female profile of him on Facebook under "People you may know." I was devastated, and confronted him. This was a couple years ago. He said he would delete the profile. But, then he got moody and depressed, and finally told me that he thought he was transgender, and couldn't stand not being able to be herself. I was very upset and asked if he'd always known, but chose to keep it from me. He said he wished he had been honest, but was so afraid I'd walk away. He said he wasn't sure he was trans when we first met, but over the years, realized he was. So, at the age of 62, he makes the decision to transition.Part of me wonders why he wanted to do this at this age. Her doctor put her on hormones, and now she is depressed, and I had to contact her therapist because I was worried. Our daughter, and both of us are all seeing separate therapists.Also during this transition, she has almost turned into a teenager,moody, and selfish. She wants to stay married. But, is this really a marriage? We are more like roommates. I have to always be the strong one. I will be 60 this year, and I did not envision my life being so complicated . All of our children know, but none of my three siblings do, nor does her sister, who she is estranged from, knows. This all came to a head when my father in law passed away in 2014. She assures me she loves me, that there is no one else, and she has zero sexual desire for any one. So, where does that leave me?