Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
Hello everyone, so I am a little new to this so im not sure where to begin. Me and my husband have been married for four years now, and though I knew about him being transsexual, he also knew that transitioning was not an option due to marrying a woman with three kids.... didn't think theyd understand. It wasn't till recently he re brought it up that he wanted to get back on the hormones ext. My fear is this....Though I love my husband I am not sure how I will feel when he starts looking like a woman. I myself am not bi or attracted to women at all,so is it selfish to worry that sexually I will not be attracted to him anymore? I want to support him and stick with him through this but how do we get over the physical attraction issue if/or when it ever gets to that?
For what it's worth, it seems to me that because you knew of his trans before you married, and because he knew that transitioning wasn't an option, then this is a situation where you both made the decision TOGETHER to get married. So, it seems extremely unreasonable to me that he should be able to make this decision without your full agreement, but more importantly, accept it if you don't.
If it would make you feel better, you can always go to the doctor and/or endocrinologist to ask questions about what will happen. Then your spouse and you will need to discuss how your and his sexual needs will be addressed going forward. Maybe you guys can work something out that will work for both of you, but also you may find that it's a deal breaker.
*hugs*