Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
I am new to this group and would like advice. I have known that my husband likes to cross dress as long as we have been together. A few years back we ran into some issues and I took on a second job to help make ends meet. He seemed to be away alot working doing side jobs etc. then 6 months ago he wound up in the hospital having surgery. Without gettin into details, I found out that he has been hiding things from me. Not cheating but, it seems like he talks to people about his "Gender Dysphoria" and has been taking femine hormones. Our sex life had pretty much became non existant due to his health (so I thought) and me working all the time. I saw conversations, medical records, & emails that seem to relate to him starting a transition without my knowledge or involvement. I confronted him and he tells me it isnt what I think and I am overreacting. But the writing is clearly on the wall! I am ok with the dressing in private it is actually fun sometimes. But, changing??? I dont know if I am hurt or angry. Also, I feel like he is not telling me the truth.
I’ve started to see a therapist, which helps to talk to someone. We’re trying couple’s therapy but I’m not sure right now how things are going to work out. All I know it’s tough. I hope your partner will come to realize you need to be involved, and it’s affecting you and your relationship. I’m not sure if you have anyone to talk to, but it certainly helps if you can share this with someone so you’re not dealing with it alone. Hang in there, I’ll be thinking of you.