Chrissy, my heart goes out to you. I imagine that he never believed in a million years that you would be brave enough to do this. My thoughts and prayers are with you right now. Stay strong and keep your head high girl. Much luv, your DS sister :)

Crissy: When we lose our dreams and something we loved and cherished it hurts. I know. Keep focused on what YOU want from your life. Get moving on making everything else that you want happen. One step at a time. I'm soooo sorry that you hurt this way. I know. I've been there with an XH and am there with my H now. When I really decided that my XH had no desire to live the life I wanted to live...loving...supportive...family...honest: I left with nothing, no home, no car, a suitcase and a Greyhound. I found a job and set out to make a life that "I" wanted. I pushed any thoughts of what he "might have been" away from me and focused on what he was "doing"...what he proved he wanted...and only that. Then I decided once again...each time...that his choice of lifestyle was not what "I" wanted. I moved steadily toward what "I" wanted. If you do that...focus on what "YOU" want, you will continue to see that following his path will not get you there. But, following yours will. IT WILL! Does it help to know that???? That I had nothing! But, I knew what I wanted and that he didn't want that. So, I sought what I wanted????? I hope it helps you even a little to know that even though I left much..I gained so much more. And I will again if I decide this my current H wants to continue his choice of lifestyle. I don't want that. I know what I want. You know what you want. Go for it. Decide to take care of you...what you want...what you need. HuuuuuGGGGGGG!!!!!!

You've a very hard thing. But a thing that is right for you. Try not to think about what he is doing. It does not relate to you. What is important is making sure you are eating and sleeping and exercising and looking after yourself. Everything is easier if your body is cared for. We'll look for your posts as you work through all the feelings. Pat yourself on the back!

Good for you. Of course he didn't expect that. Hold on to that dignity.

You just performed surgery on your mind. It's going to hurt like hell for a while, but it will get easier with time.

Remember to seek-out SAFE people who can support you emotionally right now. Stay as busy as possible. Connect with your girlfriends. Go to s-anon meetings, or CODA meetings, go to therapy if needed, and KEEP POSTING HERE!

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

How are you doing Chrissy?? I can imagine things are probably still difficult, but have you moved into a routine? You're in our thoughts and prayers.