Hi everyone,

im writing because I'm not sure where else to turn. I am a 24 year old woman who is married to a beautiful 21 year old woman with DID caused by the extreme sexual abuse by her mother. 

So far there are 5 different ages of my wife. These alters are all my wife, no one has introduced themselves as anyone but her. But I have names for each other so far. 

Nemo is 4 and she loves her mommy still. I'm not sure anything has occurred yet at this age but she's always looking for her mom when she comes out. 

BB is 5. She's scared and very shy. She thinks all grown ups will hurt her or she needs to "please them". She likes kittens and her favorite color is yellow. She's always saying she's special because she's good at making her mom feel special. 

KID is 7. She's tough and playful. She puts on a good front but sometimes she's very sad and cries. She asked me how to make grown ups stop hurting her. 

The Dark One is 13. I haven't figured out a good name for her. She's angry and dark. She's the one who hits my wife in the legs over and over again until she's covered in bruises. She uses self harm to cope with what's happening to her at that age. She's also the one who tried to take her life along with my wife two months ago. 

V (v stands for very bitchy) is 15. She's sassy and sarcastic. Not as angry as The Dark One but still angry. She's warming up to me. She trusts me more now but in the beginning she told me I was annoying and too bubbly. This one smokes cigarettes and only has her drivers permit. 

Most of the alters know me a little now but they didnt in the beginning. 

I guess im looking for advice on how to handle them or talk to them. I'm looking for answers of does this get better and how has it effected your marriage? My wife remembered nothing of her childhood until December. She had repressed it so much and now it's all unfolding. I feel like our lives are falling apart and I don't know what to do. Any advice is helpful. Thank you in advance.