spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
I don't understand why my 13year old SD acts the way she does. She has been allowed to spend weeks at the OW house visiting a child that has not been deemed her brother and frankly looks nothing like her. She then finally come over to visit us and everytime she gets me alone away from anybodo else she starts telling all about her baby brother, until someone walks in the room, then she stops. I just don't understand why she has to be so mean. I did put her in her place and anwered and question she had in front of her father and she was terrified that I brought in up in front of her dad. I really just don;t get it and then she has the nerve to ask me to get her hair done for school, lol I am not one of your paerents, maybe she should ask the OW. lol
deleted_user
LMAO! you need to put your foot down and tell her that if she wants to talk to her dad about this child that is her business but that you would rather not talk about him. her mother is a FOOL! why would she be taking her child around this other woman and getting her child attached to her fathers "possible" illegitimate child. what happens if this kid turns out to not be his child-then what does that do to this 13 yr old. this is so dysfunctional-i know you just wish you could pack up and leave town. i feel for you.
amethyst80
O, I pray with everything I got that that kid will not be his, just so I can sit back and watch everyones world burn from all the lies they have told. Not to mention what it will do to her relationship with her mom and OW. LOL But, every bine in my body screams it is his kid. I will find out soon enough, Through all of this and the last month with my nephew passing that was just a month younger then this bastard, I really have kinda lost my faith in god. I always thought god doesn't give you more then you can handle, but I am ready to break. I am also atarting to think maybe my H and I aren't ment to be.... I guess time will tell.
deleted_user
i know how you feel about the broken faith. when all of this happened i wrote my pastor and i think it was those very words that made him call me right away. i often say to god-"you said you would never put more on me than i could bare!" i mean this crap will never go away and no matter what we do we will always be faced with it. if we leave we still have to look at his cheating lying baby making ass especially if you have children with him and even if you dont have children with him you still gotta go thru the divorce process with his stupid ass....the list goes on. anyway i feel you and i know exactly what you mean by broken faith, hang in there and know that if you can not talk to anyone else-i am here and i know exactly what you are going thru and nothing you can say will be shocking to me or nor will i judge you because i have no right first of all but you and i feel exactly alike!
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