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Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
I usually come here with bad news, but thought I'd share good news. I thought today would be much worse than it's turned out to be.
Today is OC's 1st birthday, and we have NC. We've also had a falling out with my MIL over her decision to go behind our backs and contact OW/OC.
I've had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months and found at the end of last week we were pregnant again. After going in for bloodwork twice I got the call today that my HCG level's are doubling, which they never did during the miscarriages! So it looks like we're having a Christmas baby!!
I'm so excited, and while I thought I'd be upset today this has given a new take on things. Tonight while OW and OC are all alone celebrating this awful day she decided to bring a child into the world to ruin more than one families lives...my H, our son and I will be celebrating the good news on our pregnancy and expanding pregnancy.
We've blocked my MIL on social media, but I did check her page today. She posted pictures of OC with a happy birthday message and tagged OW. OW responded "thanks nana"...and MIL has gotten ZERO likes/comments on it. She was texting my H all last night how she missed him and loved him and we just ignored her.
I'm half expecting H to come home later and say OW sent him an email today. And honestly I kinda hope she does. So we can respond with our good news and ruin her OC's bday like she ruined my sons 4th bday by dropping the news just a few days before. We haven't heard from her since Dec when we went to court, but she did try to follow him on Instagram over the weekend to be nosey. I know she heard through MIL (who heard through my SIL) he's starting a non profit organization to help inner city kids have more access to sports. At first I was upset, but then I thought how much it must hurt her to see my H want to help all kids...except hers. Then he blocked her LOL
Anyways...since I always start rambling. I feel good. Light in the tunnel where I thought today would be a dark day! things are looking up for my family and we are stronger than ever!
Now lets hope it's a girl! then it'll really make my day! lol
Today is OC's 1st birthday, and we have NC. We've also had a falling out with my MIL over her decision to go behind our backs and contact OW/OC.
I've had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months and found at the end of last week we were pregnant again. After going in for bloodwork twice I got the call today that my HCG level's are doubling, which they never did during the miscarriages! So it looks like we're having a Christmas baby!!
I'm so excited, and while I thought I'd be upset today this has given a new take on things. Tonight while OW and OC are all alone celebrating this awful day she decided to bring a child into the world to ruin more than one families lives...my H, our son and I will be celebrating the good news on our pregnancy and expanding pregnancy.
We've blocked my MIL on social media, but I did check her page today. She posted pictures of OC with a happy birthday message and tagged OW. OW responded "thanks nana"...and MIL has gotten ZERO likes/comments on it. She was texting my H all last night how she missed him and loved him and we just ignored her.
I'm half expecting H to come home later and say OW sent him an email today. And honestly I kinda hope she does. So we can respond with our good news and ruin her OC's bday like she ruined my sons 4th bday by dropping the news just a few days before. We haven't heard from her since Dec when we went to court, but she did try to follow him on Instagram over the weekend to be nosey. I know she heard through MIL (who heard through my SIL) he's starting a non profit organization to help inner city kids have more access to sports. At first I was upset, but then I thought how much it must hurt her to see my H want to help all kids...except hers. Then he blocked her LOL
Anyways...since I always start rambling. I feel good. Light in the tunnel where I thought today would be a dark day! things are looking up for my family and we are stronger than ever!
Now lets hope it's a girl! then it'll really make my day! lol
BarefootWife- We haven't discussed in detail yet what we're going to do about MIL. We are planning a trip down to where she lives next month for my SIL's college graduation. This should be interesting, my H said he will walk right past his mother if we see her there. His mother is very dramatic, so I can see her causing a scene crying and everything lol. I will probably be visibly pregnant by then because I'm already poking out a little bit so she'll probably find out. Honestly, I know it'll hurt her she won't be able to be involved in this baby's life (my sons either). Hopefully it'll be a wake up call to her of what she's done. There's no going back now though...she's already caused enough damage. I'm sure she'll let OW know we're having another one. They can both be upset together. I'm not too concerned though, she does live 7 hours away so it's not like she can even be involved in our lives much if we don't let her. She sends birthday and Christmas presents every year and we did discuss how this year we will be returning to sender when they come. My SIL was up visiting us for spring break a few weeks ago and her and I talked, she told me how MIL thinks that H is just being a "baby" right now and will eventually get over it and talk to her and be in OC's life. She's got another thing coming cause neither will happen. She was a shitty mother to all her kids (my H was in foster care from 3-5yo until my FIL got him out)...so this is her thinking she can make it up by being "Grandma of the year"...only she's just being a shitty mom again to my H so it's no difference to him.