spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
amethyst80
My H was wanting to do this informational DNA then sign the papers saying he was dad if the test came back that way. Well I got sick and tired of him dragging his feet to get the dam test. I told him the money could not come from our account. So I got all of the paper work for the State test through Child support and filled them out. I threw then at him and told him to shut the hell up and sign them. He did, and now they are in the mail. There is finally an end in site. I named her H as a possible dad and they will be contacting him as well, I hope the OW is telling the truth and he already knows, cause if not the cat is going to be out of the bag. Lol My H asked why I would put him on there and I told him, that the stupid bitch did not care about ruining my marriage and life so why the fuck should I care about her life, fuck them. My H has agreed that he needs to have no contact with her until it is proven that he is dad, since he doesn't think of the kid as his. We will see how that go, but I just want the Whore to know, I am in the drivers seat not her. I wish I could be a fly on the wall when they get served with the papers. LOL
deleted_user
LMAO - Good. I don't know why they drag there feet anyway. Its a shame just get it over with. But i would have put his name down too she doesn't know who the father is so the state needs to know plus its always good to have a paper trail of it anyway. Good luck and I hope your H isn't. Keep us posted.
deleted_user
good for you-and as mean as it sounds i hope her husband does not know and then her bubble will be busted-literally! anyway please keep us posted.
amethyst80
Me too, I have heard he is mean and this sounds terrible, but I hope she likes her bed that she made. I can only pray that god will not show her any mercy.
pillar
Good for you. Time to get this moving forward or hopefully squashed forever!
deleted_user
i am so praying that the results come back and he is not the father-i so don't want you to be like us. don't want you to live with what all of us here live with. i hate to lose a member but i will gladly give you up to not have you live in the hell we all live in here.
deleted_user
ditto here as well....it is hard enough to find out that someone that you 'loved' has been sleeping around. adding a child to that is even harder. they become a daily reminder that lives with you forever. if they don't live in your household, you can try to forget they exist, but it only is temporary relief. because no matter how hard you try to ignore them, it will continue to surface and remind you of all the shit that happened...so kudo's to you amethyst for taking control and making it known to all parties involved...
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