I'm sorry this is hard, Kimmy. I have seen the ultrasounds of my ex's possible baby, too. I;ve definitely had better experiences. I hated that the manipulative bitch tried to "include" him in the pregnancy as if it's appropriate to celebrate a pregnancy caused by cheating. Fortunately, she hates me and claims she doesn't want my ex-husband in the pic since he's back with me, so I've had a couple of months that were kind of a break from it all, except for my curiosity which is coming up with countless scenarios of why she has stepped back. Is it really because she hates me, did she have a miscarriage, is the baby handicapped, did she find a new partner? She was recently at a LGBTG function and apparently used to be gay so maybe she went back to women. I hope so! Anyway, remember that you are in the driver's seat, not the whore. If your man wanted to be with her, he already would be. And there's still time for a miscarriage! Take care, Ann

Oh kim, 5 years down this road I still have days when I cant take it. All it takes is a little thinking o. The subject and i can either bust to tears or rage (depending on what I recall at the moment. It does get easier especially if H wants in and u guys have no contact. If you do or will have contact EVEN HARDER but u will also make it if H follows your rules. We have had contact from day one. Its sucked and just now when oc is ready to have his 5th bday I have given him but 1-2 hugs but Im trying. Hang in there and rejoyce that he wants u and she was a mistake which nearly all men make, these Just went bad. Til these day also I question what am i doing here. Be kind to yourself its all im saying. Hugs!!!

Thank you ladies. I just hate the fact that she snuck behind my back and drove 1/2 to his work which he is self employed and left it on his door. I haven't found any other contact since February 20th. I'm torn every which way as to how I want to deal with this OC if its found to be his. One day I want to accept it because I feel if he was just a friend I would support him and help so being his xwife/fiancé now that I should support him but then there are days I feel like I'm already divorced maybe I should let him go but then I'd be subjecting my 4 kids to his new life and OC with this OW. He wants to get married again to prove to me that he wants to be with me but I'm so scared what if he marries me then is weak and feels bad after the baby is born and wants to leave. Then he could make me leave the home I received in the divorce and take our 4 kids move the OW and OC in and take everything of mine that I obtained in the divorce for our children. I don't know anything I'm just living in doubt everyday. I thought when you had a baby with someone it was because of love guess I was wrong. It seems like she is pretending I don't exist and is trying to still play house and use this baby to keep him and or win him back and this is only the beginning the OC isn't even here yet.

The OWs are worse than alley cats, screwing whoever crosses their paths. I'd say we have at least a 50/50 chance the babies are from other men, not our partners. Whenever there's a trash tv show similar to our situations, it seems the baby daddies are often not who the whore tries to blame it on. I'm actually looking forward to when the bitch whelps so we can get the test done and move on with our lives.
Your hubs will not chose her. If he wanted to be with her he already would be. Yes, he cheated with her and that sucks. But he chooses you every day.

I can't imagine seeing a picture of the ultrasound...I'm sorry you had to see that. Hope and pray the baby is not your husbands. AuntTAnn is right, there's always a chance that our Husband's are not the fathers since the OW's are always whores and tramps who will screw anyone. The OW in our situation didn't know if the kid was my H's or another man (who...SURPRISE!...also had a family at home). She hoped it to be the other mans as he supposedly told her he was going to step up and be there if it was his kid, but unfortunately it ended up being my H's.

Unfortunately because I did see the ultrasound I actually was able to figure when she got pregnant according to the date of her ultrasound and it showed 19wks 6 days. This was another blow because supposedly she accidentally got pregnant on the 2nd date around October 8th after she had already asked him if he wanted more kids, however after I figured it she actually conceived from Oct 18-23 so basically another lie from my husband because from 2nd date Oct 8th to when she accidentally got pregnant they used no protection at all therefore going on if it happened it happened even though he denies this. October 4th was their first date and I found she googled on October 28th engagement rings. He says she didn't plan this but hard for me to believe when her history just confirms it. She was in a relationship for 5 years never used bc and never accidentally got pregnant although she said she was surprised she didn't, she also is regularly unemployed and has filed bankruptcy twice most recently in 2012 and has been evicted several times. I realize people go through this things but yet with her it's almost like she got pregnant on purpose to know it would take care of these problems from ever happening again. She worked barely for my husbands business approx. 3 months before they were together she saw all his deposits, quotes etc including his tax returns and the big kicker is I found her resume and shocker she had worked for a year as a case manager for child support!!!! So she probably already knew what her potential cs would be. Based on this new due date of July 16th which one day before my oldest birthday it seems to make it much more obvious it's going to come back his.

OMG! Reading your posts is like reading bits from a creepy parallel universe. Our OW is due July 18 or 19! And she is v poor and probably figured she would be set for life hooking up with my SO. She has been out of contact with my SO and his mother for several months and she and my ex m-i-l were very close for a while, even after my SO dumped her and she later got pregnant. She has somehow convinced or manipulated m-i-l to believe her lies. Oh well, I can't do anything about that. Anyway, since she's been out of contact for a couple of months after a great deal of contact, the hope is that she's miscarried and doesn't want anyone to see that she isn't preggers anymore! I tried to get my ex to drop by her house to see if she has a big baby bump, but he would rather wait it out. Arghhh!
Ann