I am almsot 6 months past Dday- finding out that my husband's emotional affair turned physical and that he fathered her child. There has been virtually NC with the OW for a very long time. The affair was over before he found out she was pregnant and the child is over 1 yr old. Child support is still being negotiated but my H has decided he wants NC with the child. He thinks that will be easiest/safest/fair for everyone involved. He's hoping that she finds someone to marry someday that will be a father to the child and doesn't want to try to involve the child in our lives- thinks that will just cause more trouble and pain. He has no emotional connection to the child and has never met her. We have 2 children together. I have decided to try to stay with him and work on our marriage so that we can keep our family together. It is hard as I have completely lost any respect I had for him and don't trust him to keep me safe but I'm working on it. A big issue for me right now is trying to find some closure on this situation so I can concentrate my efforts on moving forward and rebuilding. Neither of us have met the child, however the OW did go behind our back and invited my in-laws to get together with her so THEY could meet the child- nice of her, huh? Even more nice is that my in-laws went behind our back and met with her without consulting us or telling us that they did it- we found out from someone else that the meeting took place. So my question is, is it a good idea to force my husband to use legal channels so that we can at least meet the child or am I just asking to bring more pain on myself by seeing them in person? I feel like he should at least have to look at the child and face her before he decides he doesn't want to be a father to her and maybe it will help me get some closure on the situation. Does anyone else have any ideas on getting closure from my H or from the OW?
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