We had stopped talking to my MIL back in February when we found out we were pregnant and told her and instead of a congratulations we got "How can you expect me to love another grand child when I can't contact one that I already have" she then asked my husband if he just expects her to love her grand kids by who they come out of and told him to stop making them if he has a problem with it.

He didn't grow up with her, she had him at 15 and he was sent to foster care at 3, where his dad eventually found him and got custody. He grew up with his dad and stop mom and didn't have much contact his my MIL until later in life. He told her he'd never speak to her again and she was dead to him and swore she'd never see our new baby. I ended up miscarrying, but got pregnant again shortly after and now I'm due in December.

When we found out it was a boy last week, he called his mother and now they're talking again. I haven't talked to her yet, but I can't help but not like it. He even said to me "I know you're not going to like this, but I talked to my mom the other day." I haven't said anything about it because it's his mom and I wouldn't want him telling me I can't talk to my mom (they don't get along either, but because of the stuff she knows he's done to me). But it just makes me wonder...ok if he's going to talk to her now what? Will she be convincing him to be in OC's life against what him and I have already discussed? I noticed she's stopped liking OW's pictures and commenting (like she was doing when she first reached out to her), but I just don't trust her.

What upsets me the most is that his mother has had 6 kids (all by different men). My H (the first) grew up with his dad after foster care, she kept 3 of them (and they had a questionable life as she was in and out of jail and the streets) and then gave 2 up for adoption! One of the ones she gave up for adoption she has no contact with and the other one she came in contact with when he was about 17, but then disowned him for posting things about weed on his instagram account. So who are you to now play all high and mighty about your grandkids and how we choose not to have contact. She's turned her life around now, but still. If anyone she should understand this situation. I told my H she probably sides with OW because she's a whore lol

Now my H called her the other day asking if she'll throw me a baby shower (since my mom threw it for our first son). I didn't even ask what she said. Honestly I don't want one, and I don't want her throwing it. So then she can post pictures online and OW see them and get mad and try to come after us for more CS? This is why I want nothing to do with her because we want OW now way involved in our lives and if MIL is in contact with her she will always have an in. It's also a sore spot with me because my MIL was the one my H confided in when he first found out that OW was pregnant at 5 months and she told him it could be his or someone elses. My MIL told him to wait to tell me until he knew for sure it could be his instead of telling me then (if he had told me then...before we officially got married) I would have left. So I partly blame her for all this.