So sorry, Lil. <<hugs>>
It sure sounds like he's been up to his old tricks. I think most of us would be stupid to fully trust our cheating spouses fully in the future.
Take care,
Ann

I am so, so sorry to hear this, lilhurt. It sounds like your H has been cheating and lying again… but to play devil's advocate, what if the test does not mean he cheated in the last 3 months: did you ask your doctor what is the possibility that the March 14 test was a false negative? Some tests are not very sensitive and you could have been infected from his original extracurricular activities and been carrying the Chlamydia not knowing it until it became "abundant enough" to trigger a positive test. Just a thought. I don't know anything about Chlamydia but it's worth talking to your doctor about.

Hugs…
Grace

The first time I "caught" my H cheating he gave me this. One thing I do know about this STD is it's super common, you more than likely NEVER get any side effects, so if it makes you feel any better...google a bit to see if there is any wiggle room with the date that he could have contracted it and passed it on to you.

I've researched ever since I got the call, and even made up screen names to post on internet forums to get more info/advice. Everything says he had to have cheated in the last 3 months. He's being very passive about it. When I tried to bring it up without fighting and just tell him I'm feeling down and confused on how I could have possibly gotten it he just said basically he doesn't know what to say without fighting, that we both have evidence of something weird happening in the last 3 months (though he has nothing on me...I've been home every single day/night other than work or going to see my mom) and he chalked it up to a sex toy we were using Valentines day has had his time to reflect and doesn't want to go back. I've looked it up and it's not possible it came from the sex toy either. I've found tons of other women posting about how they tested positive for it, and their partner has never cheated (partner even tested negative)...but with his history I just can't be sure. I want to believe him...but I can't and it's eating me alive inside. I've been trying to hide my feelings and keep it all in for the sake of being pregnant right now...but not sure how much longer I can harbor these feelings. Every second I think about what he must have done.

The only thing that gives me some doubt in the back of my mind is that I just can't even believe he would be so stupid as to have unprotected sex AGAIN. Even if he has cheated in the last 3 months why would anyone who is paying child support 2 kids he never wants (the first one was right before we met, so it wasn't an OW/OC situation...and he is involved in her life as much as possible though she lives in another state) risk sleeping with a random person unprotected again. It couldn't have been a long term thing, it would have had to been a quick 1 night stand because he's only gone out 1 or 2 nights and he works at our sons school so I know any day he's not at work, so it's not like he had the time to build a "relationship" and put trust in a person (like he did with OW) to trust them to be on birth control. Even putting STD's aside, I just can't imagine why ANYONE would risk that. That's the only part that doesn't make sense to me.

Hi Hurt like I said most of our lives run parallel. Same with me: on my first pregnancy exams i too tested poss for Gono/clam same difference. I know how devastating this is especially when you are prego and everything should be bubbles and flowers. The irony is that back hen there was no sign of an A. I dont know what was going on at the time luckily and dont know if OW existed or wich one. The irony is that i should have re tested bec i immediately made my H get tested and he tested NEGATIVE. I was devastated bec he is the only man I have ever slept with but either my test was wrong or his infection resolved by itself somehow or they are capable of carrying it w/o being actually infected. I don't know, i hate to even recall those times. It was easy to push out of my mind as a mistake bec there was no sign of cheating back hen in my pregnant rose colored eyes until my sons 5 mo. All hell broke loose. He was obviously guilty and that is why he didnt blame me for having it. Good luck and I'm so sorry, get yourself treated and don't try to date this. You can carry that stuff for a long time and not know.

I'm so sorry youre going through this! I recently tested positive for something I never heard of! Ureaplasma is how I believe you spell it. Well we have the same reg doc so she was just going to give him a script & I said Heck no! If I.have to be humiliated then so does he! Little did I know they didn't swab him just did a urine specimen which the doc said is hard to pick that up bc he tested negative!!! The HORROR! I was mortified! She says its not a normal test they run, has no symptoms, I have her test me ever few months just in case bc he's only been "faithful" a year and a half and I doubt that. So she came to his rescue & said I could of had this the whole time!! I was furious! I seriously doubt it. I had a baby & had 3 doctors last pregnancy, explained my situation so hopefully they would have ran this. My point ladies, ask that they run this test too!

As for your situation if you know you didn't do anything he had to. You just have to decide if you can move past it. Tell him you know & he needs to be honest so y'all can work past it. That's what I told my husband. I think it was a wake up call. He thought he was invincible as far as stds are concerned. He apologized which I did not expect. Im so sorry hun & I hope it gets better. Try not to stress it, its done. And its not the first time your docs saw that happen. **hugs**