Poor baby Hurt dont even think you post too much. You just voice what you are feeling and it helps a lot. We have all been through or feel the same things one way or another. First of all, think of your baby as the best gift to both of you. He'll totally fall in love w it whatever the sex and he/she will be beautiful. Good joo joo and feelings towards your baby always. And yes....I have that feeling sometimes too. Oc is 1.5 yrs younger than our first but he is very handsome and almost the same size and built as my son. I do get a pang of jealosy bec i think "damn they really were into it when they made him lol" good genes etc. but I look at my son and even though they look very different i realize he is just as handsome if not more. Makes me smile:)) As for me I have only seen her once and i feel like she is along the same lines as my features. Except nice straight hair and a bigger ass(bitch) so i just think she looks fat hahaha. Yes there is a lot of comparing inside of me and there is nothing you can do but take good care of your self and keep you beautiful and just relax. Facebook sux lmfao!!!

Hurt, I understand those feelings of jealousy all too well. I'm very new here and still trying to find my feet, not sure how this forum works yet but am so loving all the support that people seem to get here, exactly what I need right now. It's also sickening how many of these homewrecking whores are actually out there. My H's OC is his only child so far as we don't have any yet and it's a boy. He's wanted a son for so long but has NC with OW or OC, not even paying CS because OW refuses to get a DNA. We are now trying for our own and it'll be a year in August still trying. It kills me that his first child, a son, had to be with that slut. She's actually even proud of it, once sent me a text message saying that SHE'S the mother of his 'heir', not me. I try not to let that get to me but some days I just don't even wanna get out of bed, let alone face the world. I also worry so much that I may not be able to fall pregnant and give him the son he so badly yearns for, probably the main reason why I haven't been able to conceive because I stress about it so much. OC is over a year old and I have asked my H if he regrets not having any contact with him and he's told me that he doesn't because OW refuses to get a DNA test so we can't be sure that it's his. Yesterday I was actually thinking that I really don't hate OC, he's just a child but the way his mother dangles him in front of me like a carrot actually brews some sort of resentment towards him. I prayed for many months that that not be his son so the bitch can eat her words and I'll have the last laugh but with her not vehemently refusing to submit to a DNA test we have no way of knowing :( But I cherish these moments because for now they are both out of our lives, but I always worry that someday H will get served to pay CS. Argh, this is all such a mess!

Thanks Torn! My son is just the cutest little thing ever, so I'm sure our new baby will be just as cute. I know these are all just crazy thought in my head (hormones aren't helping! lol) So glad I have this board and you ladies to understand all this craziness :)

Jadded- I'm so sorry you're going through this too! I can understand your feelings of jealously that he has a son. Although my husband has an OC (she is 1.5 also) I was glad that she was a girl because it makes it easier for my husband to not have contact. Even the fact his other daughter is a girl is what keeps him a little more distant (though technically she wasn't an OC, it was a strained relationshp in the beginning. Our relationship was new and her mother thought I was just some random girl who wouldn't be around long and she would end up with him one day...here we are 10 years later lol). It's hard for some guys to relate to girls unless they see them daily and are there the whole time growing up. We have NC also and I think if it were a boy it'd be harder for my husband to keep that up as they got older. The bond between my husband and our son is priceless. Even before he told me about OC, his first reaction to OW wasn't even about me, it was about our son. He was devastated asking her "how am I supposed to tell my son I cheated on his mother!?" I know the fact that I have his son and the bond he has kills OW and his other daughters mother also. Now if we have a girl I know it'll hurt her even more because they'll see he'll eventually have a bond with our daughter that he won't have with her daughter. Anyways...The fact that your OW is refusing a DNA SCREAMS that there is a big chance that the child isn't your husbands. As I've seen, most OW's are proud to take DNA tests so they can rub it in our faces that the kid is our H's. Our OW had to get multiple DNA test done and finally came to my husband after the other 2 came out 0% and asked for one. He refused it because he didn't even want to know since he knew he wouldn't be having contact anyway, but she took him to court for it along with money. If your OW knew without a doubt that this kid was your H's then she'd be jumping at the chance to get a DNA test as more proof to dangle in your face (they are an awful breed). The good thing is that if she ever decides to server your DH with CS papers, they will have to do a DNA test before they make him pay anything. And in most cases (like in ours) they can't ask for back child support, they can only get it from the day he was legally determined to be the father. It took me 8 months to get pregnant this time, and that included 2 miscarriages in between. The stress an OC causes definitely takes a toll on us. With our son I got pregnant 2nd cycle off birth control. I with you luck and hope that you get pregnant very soon!

Good to see these discussions.