spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
Most of you know me but for those who don't, I'll give a lil back story. My husband and I have been married for 5 yrs and we have an 8 yr old son. We found out in January that he has 2 other sons (10 and 7) with this whore he used to see when he and I would fight. Sad...I know.
Anyhow, we have started our visitation (every other weekend) since Halloween weekend and the boys do wonderfully. Its BM that starts all the crap. SHe has given the 10 yr old a cell phone and complains he doesn't call her enough while he's gone. See...he doesn't want to call her. But, she told him to check in with her a couple times a day. So, after the child calling his mother 3 times within the 1st 2 hours of being with us. My husband finally took his phone and told him he could call her before bed and if he wanted to call her any other time, all he had to do was ask. The child NEVER wanted to call his mother. So she has raised a stink about this. Even though she does not make them call their father when they are with her and the child does not have the phone when he's with his mother.
There are so many other things she's complaining about. She had the nerve to call me a stalker and say it was inappropaite for me to talk to the boys about her personal life...and that I shouldn't know anything about her personal life. We live in a small town! I know what goes on. She continues to grill the boys when they go home. They know every single place we go, what we talked about, what we ate, and EVERYTHING.
Ugh...I seriuosly want to punch her in the throat! WHy can't she just go away?? She makes everything difficult
Anyhow, we have started our visitation (every other weekend) since Halloween weekend and the boys do wonderfully. Its BM that starts all the crap. SHe has given the 10 yr old a cell phone and complains he doesn't call her enough while he's gone. See...he doesn't want to call her. But, she told him to check in with her a couple times a day. So, after the child calling his mother 3 times within the 1st 2 hours of being with us. My husband finally took his phone and told him he could call her before bed and if he wanted to call her any other time, all he had to do was ask. The child NEVER wanted to call his mother. So she has raised a stink about this. Even though she does not make them call their father when they are with her and the child does not have the phone when he's with his mother.
There are so many other things she's complaining about. She had the nerve to call me a stalker and say it was inappropaite for me to talk to the boys about her personal life...and that I shouldn't know anything about her personal life. We live in a small town! I know what goes on. She continues to grill the boys when they go home. They know every single place we go, what we talked about, what we ate, and EVERYTHING.
Ugh...I seriuosly want to punch her in the throat! WHy can't she just go away?? She makes everything difficult
I make sure that I'm talking to my husbandorc other children when he is on the phone with her. Let her hear my voice every time. On halloween (the first one he's actually spent with us) she called to tell him he couldn't trick or treat anymore because itc wastoo cold and dark!
My husband cursed her ass out. Its a common theme. I think it kills her for him to spend time with me.