spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
So after I sat up most of the night crying as my H sleep. I realize it is him who will need to give me a reason to stay if the baby is his. I have every reason to leave and had tryed for the last 9 months, but now it is his turn.............Why, do I have to loose sleep? Why, do I have to feel like I am dying? Why, Do I want to be saved? and they are perfectly ok with the sitution, it just isn't fair............
Did any of your H give you a reason to stay or did you stay out of your own choice?
Oh, Also I have to deal with my H ex-wife throwing this in my face every chance she gets. She has now become friends with the OW, just to make my life hell and she wants to tell their 12 year old about her new brother or sister, even before a DNA test is done? WTF does she not care about her kid? Lets forget that the OW lives with her H and kids.
I am so much better then all of this, and it is time that I get put first and treated the way I deserve to.
Did any of your H give you a reason to stay or did you stay out of your own choice?
Oh, Also I have to deal with my H ex-wife throwing this in my face every chance she gets. She has now become friends with the OW, just to make my life hell and she wants to tell their 12 year old about her new brother or sister, even before a DNA test is done? WTF does she not care about her kid? Lets forget that the OW lives with her H and kids.
I am so much better then all of this, and it is time that I get put first and treated the way I deserve to.
I KNOW HOW IF FEELS TO SIT UP AND CRY ALL NIGHT WHILE HE SLEEPS, YOU JUST WANT TO BASH HIS HEAD IN. ONE OF THE WORST NIGHTS I HAD MY HUSBAND WAS LYING ON THE COUCH SNORING SO LOUD, HIS ARM WAS STRETCHED OUT AND AS I WALKED BY HIM BOO-HOOING I SLAPPED THE INSIDE FOLD OF HIS ARM AS HARD AS I COULD. HIS EYES POPPED OPEN AND HE JUST LOOKED AT ME, I GAVE HIM A EVIL STARE AND WALKED ON UPSTAIRS. DO YOU KNOW THAT BEFORE I REACHED THE TOP OF THE STAIRS HE WAS SNORING AGAIN. BASTARD. WHY SHOULD WE BE DOING ALL THE CRYING WHILE THEY SEEM TO GO ON LIKE ITS NOTHING.
His Ex is a very unhappy person, and she doesn't like me because since me and my H have gotten together, my H has become somewhat of a better person. He has his own truck, owns a home, and is happy and that pisses her off. even though she slept with all most all of his friends while they were together. Yet, he is a terrible person because he isn't there for the OW who might be having his baby? She is telling everyone it is his baby, and we refuse to talk to her about it. I want to go blow her up, but I will not stoop to her level.
tell his ex-wife and her new friend to kiss your ass. your husband should not be there with a woman who is having his kid when he has a wife who they both betrayed. i am sure she knew he was married and knew exactly what she was doing when she got pregnant so while he tries to repair his marriage she deserves to be alone. may sound mean but it is the truth. i take great pride in knowing that my husbands whore called him when she was in labor and he did not show up until she called and said the baby was born. she had to go thru that alone and that is what she deserved, he has to deal with a lot of guilt and that is what he deserves. i know it is hard to accept or believe but you had no hand in this chaos, don't let them bring you down with their drama.
In my situation my H knew that he couldn't give me a reason to stay. We both know I deserve better and no matter what I did to him, I didn't deserve what he did to me. But we both agreed that we didn't give our marriage 100% in the first place and we never made God the center. Its still up and down of course but if it doesn't work then we want to be able to walk away saying that we both tried our best unlike before.