spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
hey everyone just checking in! I had my baby Dec 15th and he is doing great! he's almost 3 months now and I just got back to work yesterday. I haven't been on here at all cause the link was on my work laptop and I never logged on while I was at home on leave. It was nice to stay home but of course DH ruined that.
After I had the baby there was distance between us (he can't handle not being the center of attention constantly) and I found pictures of him kissing a co worker (a student helper who just turned 21 and also had a boyfriend...not sure what she thought would come from a married man almost 15 years older than her with a wife, 4 kids and 3 baby mommas!). My DH is one of those weak men who go for any woman that shows them any attention. I'm doing ok and just doing what I have to do to get the house hold run with 2 kids. I'm so over my DH and can't even look at him without being disgusted.
OW had her baby (not DH's) a week after I did. She posts pics on FB to make it look like OC belongs to the father of the new baby too. I find it funny. She told DH she will take him off child support and eventually her boyfriend will adopt OC but he hasn't heard from her since November about it. I do have to admit I am a little jealous of her. She went about the whole situation the wrong way but won in the end. She gets to stay home with OC and the new baby with my DH's child support and being supported by the new boyfriend. Plus they look happy. All while I'm still dealing with Dh's constant bullshit.
I'm just sick of the drama one way or another...whether it's OW or someone else. Wish life could just be simple.
I am enjoying the baby stage though! I forgot how cute and cuddly they are at this age :)
Hope everyone is doing well!
After I had the baby there was distance between us (he can't handle not being the center of attention constantly) and I found pictures of him kissing a co worker (a student helper who just turned 21 and also had a boyfriend...not sure what she thought would come from a married man almost 15 years older than her with a wife, 4 kids and 3 baby mommas!). My DH is one of those weak men who go for any woman that shows them any attention. I'm doing ok and just doing what I have to do to get the house hold run with 2 kids. I'm so over my DH and can't even look at him without being disgusted.
OW had her baby (not DH's) a week after I did. She posts pics on FB to make it look like OC belongs to the father of the new baby too. I find it funny. She told DH she will take him off child support and eventually her boyfriend will adopt OC but he hasn't heard from her since November about it. I do have to admit I am a little jealous of her. She went about the whole situation the wrong way but won in the end. She gets to stay home with OC and the new baby with my DH's child support and being supported by the new boyfriend. Plus they look happy. All while I'm still dealing with Dh's constant bullshit.
I'm just sick of the drama one way or another...whether it's OW or someone else. Wish life could just be simple.
I am enjoying the baby stage though! I forgot how cute and cuddly they are at this age :)
Hope everyone is doing well!
That's what's going down on our end.
Fb is fantasy land. It's not the full picture. Sort of like when we see "stars without their makeup". The magazine and trivial tweets are the "image" but they wake up ugly and puffy and they have their burdens.
If being on your own is not possible right now ( I know 4 kids makes itc tough) Then be the best YOU you csn be. Enjoy your kids and hobbies and friends. Find the joy in your blessings and screw the ow. Im sure she's not the girl she portrays herself to be.