Smoking Addiction & Recovery Support Group
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Stressed out bad. Sonny (SO) is lazy, drunk, boring, suffocating my space by constantly being here, and its almost like I am going to be here until you cant stand it anymore. Had him ride with me the other day to take sienna home and he is just a hollow man that has no life and no interests. Tv and beer and talking about others. He is not here now and trying to relax but anxious about him getting here soon. No drivers liscense and not trying to get it. Spends all extra money on beer. Does just want he has to and no more. Does not go to his daughters or spend time with them. Repeats his same boring stories over and over and over and not even taking a lot of personal care. His bedroom stinks for gods sake. No sex for 2 years and I have no desire for this with him either. I jerk if he touches me and try to get away.
have put all of this on the back burner with the deaths and Rieds problems after birth (grandbaby)
Trying to stop smoking before I go to Ryans (sons) next week and having difficulty as I am so anxious after I get off work and coming home to the elephant in the living room. I am so fucking angry at him and know that our relationship is very shallow and that I have to do something soon or go crazy. I dont want to go there as it will be so stressful but have to go and be pleasant and NOT SMOKE for Gods sake. But know that I can do it and feel like I did well if I dont smoke. Readings tell me dont regret a position that u cant smoke at but think about being proud of yourself for not. For not running away to smoke.
I want a relationship that I share things with someone but think that until I change myself I cant do this. So is this a method to not move on. Maybe I cant handle a relationship that is based on trust and mutual respect. Maybe its like stopping smoking. Maybe we are never ready to stop something that is hurting us. I find myself waiting for a moment of clarity that stays with me and gets me through my problems. I guess with me not having to work through my anxiety and fears.
I run and run and run and run away from everything with the bottle or cigs that pull me away from those that are stressing me out.
Sister is gone and it is very hard as I miss her and just cant believe she is gone. Cant believe Tara is gone( my niece died at 24). My aunt Gwyn also passed. My life is flying by as I hate it and just get through one day after another.
Do I need AA or church? Or both maybe? How do I start to enjoy life and other people with a real zest and interest again? Maybe just cant enjoy anyone that is part of this party life style that I am sick of. But now I drink alone and feel zoned out and like I dont want to be around anyone. Say everyday that I am going to go to counceling again but dont call anyone. Disappointed with several councelors that I have went to.
Advice appreciated. I am a mess.
I hear you,, dependency and codependency isn't healthy and it is not going to change into happiness one day,,,, on the contrary, the misery grows, resentment grows and the well of addiction gets deeper.
Ive seen my mother waiting for life to change without taking action. Yes, she stopped smoking, but no didn't break the relationship with my father. I love them both, they both love me, but a healthy relationship isnt based in staying together for the kids.
Only you can change your self, your life, your future,,,, only you.
When thinking about the future we need to think selfishly, because at the end it will be only us dealing with todays choices.
Like saying,, oh that man doesn't talk to me,,, well, why keep him seating on the couch?
Empower yourself, you know the difference between good for you and not and take action,,,,, TODAY!!
Alma
If you want to quit, focus on quitting. Keep practicing.
Just do the best you can.
As far as the drinking goes... do you think it's a problem? Can you admit you are powerless over alcohol? Cigarettes too? Quitting both at the same time may be an impossible task. If it were me, and I know it's not, I would tackle the drinking first as it impairs your judgment and can kill you. Smoking can too but not as fast usually. After you get your drinking under control then tackle smoking.
AA is a good group to go to. Alot of their practices can be applied to other things, not just alcohol. Only you can decide if you're ready to make a change. It sounds like you know this but are scared. It is scary but I believe you can do it.
We're all here cheering you on. There are groups on here for alcohol and also co-dependency. Check them out. You will find more support there I'm sure.
Good luck Sassy. We're here for you too.
going to get a councelor and start reading again. thanks