Hello new to the group. I am 24 yrs old and I am a single mother to a 1yr old little boy. I was in a relationship with his dad for almost 4yrs and he was abusive (mentally) so we broke up. He feels like he dosent have to do anything he makes at least 60,000 a yr and wont even help me out. His thing is he wants me to do everthing he tells me to do and then he will take care of his son. Why should anybody feel like that? Basically you want control over me. Why cant you be a real man and just take care of your responsibilites. Im scared to put him on child support because I am afraid he will come after me. He was threatning me a year ago saying some very disturbing things. So i feel stuck. Everybody is like he needs to be put on child support but they dont realize what type of person he is. Its so frustrating that I have to do this by myself. Then he has the nerve to be mad at me because he found out I changed my sons last name. I dont feel bad because he has disrespected my son so many times why should I name him after a man like that. When I first told him I was pregnant he avoided me for a month leaving me to go through this by myself. I was scared and didnt know what to do and he would not talk to me. He asked me why I wanted to keep the baby, told me he didnt have time in his schedule to be a daddy. Got mad at me and said something down right awful, he said that he had a son already he dosen't need another.(He has a child from a preivious relatioship)This is what type of man he is. I hate him so much right now. And I dont like to say that he is a cold hearted bastard. I just need support right now. This single parent thing is very hard.