Single Parenting Support Group

Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.

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tink22 07/03/2008

I have been separated from my husband for over year, he hasn't made any effort to see his children. the other day both my children told me that they wanted to see their dad. he is bipolar and has schizoaffective disorder. our relationship was physcial and emotionally abusive. when my kids started being affected I left. I want them (my kids) to have a dad but I need to decide if they are better off without him. I like being on my own and I am 100 times happier without him. but there are times where I wish I could send them to their dads for the night instead of a babysitter. I know that possiblity is very far off, but maybe vistations? any thoughts?

Thriver 07/03/2008

Part of their wish might be curiosity. Maybe they just miss him. Seeing him, well, you need to think it through. Is he safe? Would he accept limited contact or would a struggle ensue? What is your legal situation?

I know you need a break from time to time, but he doesn't seem safe enough to drop the kids off at all. You don't know what direction he has gone in since a year ago. If he were better, wouldn't he try to contact the kids?

deleted_user 07/10/2008

you are opening a big can of worms and wiggle room for him to try to get his ties back into your life . The kids are so much happier without him, just remember that. you told me that, this is where we have to stick to our guns and stay strong. make healthy friends who can help with the kids, others without the baggage, of the past, the more you let him back in the more clean up and pain you will have later again. Been there done this, sometimes just out of lonleyness, and no one else can love your kids the way that you can. but remember that is true. NO ONE loves and protects lke you, dont go backwards. I know it;s scarry. we can talk.... there are other healthier options.... not him , not now... maybe never, Deneen

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