Single Parenting Support Group
Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.
Hello All,
So I am leaving my husband because he is a bad father! I do not say that with ease either - he really is making bad choices, and I can't accept them.
We have been married / together for almost 10 years, known each other for almost 20. I thought he was such a good guy, and I do love him - I just don't agree with his parenting techniques, or lack thereof.
Example - we have 26 month old twin daughters, he has been threatening to take down the safety gates (at the top of the stairs to the basement) for 10 - 12 months now....and when I call him on it - he simply leaves them open when the girls are around! One even got to two steps down by herself and he didn't care, he said 'shes smart, she will figure it out' I DONT AGREE
Example - he let our daughters walk down the street my themselves! He stopped to look at a sewer drain, and let the one walk 2 houses down by herself. When I came home to see it, I slammed the car into park and ran to get her.
I started separation paperwork the next day.
The problem - I love him. The girls love him. But he is stupid...thoughts? Should I just say strong and keep the paperwork in place and be done with him.....or give him a chance? (I really dread the idea of giving him a chance because the good Lord only knows what will happen....)
So I am leaving my husband because he is a bad father! I do not say that with ease either - he really is making bad choices, and I can't accept them.
We have been married / together for almost 10 years, known each other for almost 20. I thought he was such a good guy, and I do love him - I just don't agree with his parenting techniques, or lack thereof.
Example - we have 26 month old twin daughters, he has been threatening to take down the safety gates (at the top of the stairs to the basement) for 10 - 12 months now....and when I call him on it - he simply leaves them open when the girls are around! One even got to two steps down by herself and he didn't care, he said 'shes smart, she will figure it out' I DONT AGREE
Example - he let our daughters walk down the street my themselves! He stopped to look at a sewer drain, and let the one walk 2 houses down by herself. When I came home to see it, I slammed the car into park and ran to get her.
I started separation paperwork the next day.
The problem - I love him. The girls love him. But he is stupid...thoughts? Should I just say strong and keep the paperwork in place and be done with him.....or give him a chance? (I really dread the idea of giving him a chance because the good Lord only knows what will happen....)
His opinion is that he has other kids and they are fine, so these ones will be too. I disagree. it only takes a split second for a life altering thing to happen, and he doesn't care.
Yes, we were in a loving relationship - but ever since I asked him to move out - he has become horrific. Example, my daughter has/had pneumonia - he didn't even come see her, we were in the hospital and testing etc and he said sleep was more important.
- I invited him over for father's day - and he said no. I made him dinner, the girls had crafts for him and again he said no - that if he couldn't stay there - he wouldn't come over no strings attached for that request.
Last night - I asked him to come see the girls and said I would make dinner - but I asked if he would change a lightbulb in their room and he said no. He wouldn't come over so he would do chores - no way. (it was one lightbulb in a ceiling fan, didn't think it was too much to ask)
Thoughts?