Single Dads Support Group
This community is dedicated to fathers who are going through the parenting process alone or without the support of a spouse. Single parenthood is often opted for by the parent (as in divorce, adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), or an unforeseeable occurrence (as in the death of one parent or abandonment by one parent).
Hi everyone i am a new father here.my ex decided to keep a secret from me for a long time even during pregnancy,she decided to use drugs behind my back and was never home and the 5th of this month my son was born three weeks early and withdrawing from her drug use,it broke my heart and now i will be getting custody of my son, it broke my heart and now as I am excited about having custody of my son i am also scared, it hurts me seeing my son like that and the simple fact that the woman i loved chose drugs over his well being,now i am fighting tears back every night and just need support
That being said, raising a child on your own is not the easiest let alone a child that will need some immediate help to ensure it doesn't have any health complications due to its inability to protect itself from the harm brought to it during its time in the womb.
I am sure there have been avenues put in place by those who want to see the child do well in addition to yourself. What is the most challenging thing is putting your needs behind the needs of another. You want to do all you can but the best thing for you and the child is to do your best to be the best father you can be meaning, don't look backwards, don't look at the; could have's, should have's and would have's.
Reach out to those around you whether it be; family, friends, even the courts when comes time needing the help and support to raise your child. Also, will hope that the mother gets things together in the future for herself.
Wish you the best and wish I had some other encouraging words to pass along to you other than to take things a day at a time, don't be too proud to keep seeking help but also follow the light in your heart to do the best and be the best parent you can be.
In time, things will get better. We all want things immediately but that is hardly ever the case. In closing will just reiterate what I responded to above and that is to keep yourself strong so that you can be strong for those that count on you.
Wishing you the best.