Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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theletter12 02/12/2010

So I run into people at work all the time...in the hallways, in the kitchen, getting coffee. Some people I know so I talk to them and I say "hi" when I pass them. Others they don't even really acknowledge me and I don't really work with them. I feel hey that is fine. No problem.

Yesterday I go into our printing room and two people are in there that I NEVER talk too. I say "hi" quietly. They both say nothing. Oh well i figure they didn't hear me. As they are walking away I hear them say something like- "wow she just said "hi" to you".

Now I don't get this - they NEVER say "hi" to me - NEVER...so why is it I'm the weirdo. They do the SAME EXACT THING!

Sometimes I really hate people. They are such jerks. Now I feel like they are taking some private inventory of when I say "hi". If someone says "hi" to me I say "hi" back... ALWAYS. If they don't say anything I don't say anything.

I hate the way they make me feel like an oddball...when they do the same things.

deleted_user 02/13/2010

This is a problem for me a lot as well, because I'm often passing people in the hallway that I don't know (I work in a building with many different companies). There's one girl that I learned was talking about me to one of my co-workers about how I'm so stuck up and never want to have a conversation with her. Fact is, I used to say hi to her, but I didn't want to have a conversation because a) I didn't know her, and b) we were in the bathroom!

Anyway, for you, who cares what they think? They obviously have the wrong impression and if they want to be jerks about it, then they aren't worth your time.

Try practicing saying hi to people first, though, because other people might be like you and not want to say it first. I get a sense of relief once I just blurt it out.

deleted_user 02/15/2010

I know how you feel.. I work in a small company and that makes it even more uncomforable when 2 of my coworkers don't say good morning. When they come into the office, they pass about 4 people who they say "Hi, how are you? Did you have a nice evening lastnight?" But when they pass by my desk, I say hi to them and one either says it back like she doesn't really want to say anything but does it, and the other one sometimes doesn't even say it at all. They are very talkative girls and hardly shut up, but they seem very stuck up to me and don't want to speak to me. In my case, I say it so they will have to say something, even though I know they don't want to. I'd say in your case, say it to everyone and then people who don't know you will eventually want to get to know this nice person who says Hi to them. :)

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