What have you done to act on outgoing feelings? It seems like a solution, to think about the opposite of shy (outgoing? confident? open? sharing? sociable?) Yesterday I took an invite to a b-day party of a girl I don't know too well. It was a good way to realize, I'm not the only one who felt awkward or didn't want to go because I am not the most sociable person I know. I also took an invitation to dinner and to go with my boyfriend to his friends house, though I had hardly anything to say and sort of isolated, at least I did not wait in the car. What I'm saying in, that by acting on something opposite of shy, we reinforce a new feeling/behavior/action and it gets easier. When we act on the shy feeling/behavior/action that gets stronger. What does the opposite of shy meant to you, and do you have an opportunity to act that way? I am a shy person. I also used to be an entertainer, and I work as a background actor. I can still do that and be shy. It is not easy. Some people can't believe it. We all have the ability to act on that which we desire to be, if that is outgoing, we can choose those behaviors, and it may not go as planned at first, but it is a step in the right direction.