Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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What is opposite of shy?

Loved1
Loved1
What have you done to act on outgoing feelings? It seems like a solution, to think about the opposite of shy (outgoing? confident? open? sharing? sociable?) Yesterday I took an invite to a b-day party of a girl I don't know too well. It was a good way to realize, I'm not the only one who felt awkward or didn't want to go because I am not the most sociable person I know. I also took an invitation to dinner and to go with my boyfriend to his friends house, though I had hardly anything to say and sort of isolated, at least I did not wait in the car. What I'm saying in, that by acting on something opposite of shy, we reinforce a new feeling/behavior/action and it gets easier. When we act on the shy feeling/behavior/action that gets stronger. What does the opposite of shy meant to you, and do you have an opportunity to act that way? I am a shy person. I also used to be an entertainer, and I work as a background actor. I can still do that and be shy. It is not easy. Some people can't believe it. We all have the ability to act on that which we desire to be, if that is outgoing, we can choose those behaviors, and it may not go as planned at first, but it is a step in the right direction.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i guess i think the opposite of shy is going outside your comfort zone. some people love it, but i hate it. i've done it before, but it's not a story i'd like to tell.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I see what you are saying here.. but at the same time, we have to feel comfortable enough with ourselves to step even a toe outside of that comfort zone to be able to start acting the opposite of shy.

I have been trying so hard to jump out of my comfort zone, and so far I think I am doing pretty well considering. I have talked to new people.. and joked a little with a guy without feeling like crying or throwing up. baby steps is the key!
deleted_user
deleted_user
one can't step when one can't stand. why put myself in harm's way? if people don't like me the way i am, the hell with them. they can either understand and accept me or they can turn their backs and walk away. i've tried to change and it just seems no matter what i do, it's just not good enough. my fear shines through and makes me seem pathetic and i hate that feeling of worthlessness. it's hard to put myself in that position.
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