Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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Rosalie1990 09/19/2008

I really like this guy at my church! he's the most sweetest person in the world! He has said that my artwork is amazing, and that my cooking is really yummy.
The only problem is, I've always heard him say these things to other people while I'm in the background listening. And we've never spoken before. Mostly because I'm painfully shy, and can't speak as well as freezing and blushing in his prescence.
Anyway lately (this year) he hasn't really praised my artwork and cooking much. And it makes me feel really depressed! I just really would like to speak to him! But I'm so afraid! And I know you guys probably can't help me, but I just want to try anyhow, because I'm sick of not being able to talk to people! So please help me as much as you can!

deleted_user 09/19/2008

Well, what I usually do when I go church is give a hand shake or hugs to say hello.. and with some people it starts the conversation...and sometimes it doesn't...I would try that, just day hello and see what happens..

deleted_user 09/23/2008

You must first find the cause of your shyness. The main reason for shyness is an excessive focus on the self! I am not rich, I am not white, I am too short, I am too tall, so forth. Remove the focus on yourself, redirect your focus and attention on others. When you focus on others, you forget yourself, you forget your shyness.
And if you ever feel shy or nervous dont try to hide it. Be frank enough and admit it, the nervousness will decrease by a factor of ten.

deleted_user 09/25/2008

You could wright a note to him since u cant't talk maybe that will help!

deleted_user 09/30/2008

If was good at this tell you. but there is no garent. but ther is always body lanage to full back on.

deleted_user 09/30/2008

try some visualization exercises...there's a book by Shakti Gawain called "Creative Visualization" and it's really helped me do some things I never thought I could do. And, you could always try prayer.

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