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Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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Outgoing people

theletter12
theletter12
Do overly outgoing people make you extremely uncomfortable?

They make me...and I retreat into myself more and more when I am around them. Then I resent them. I feel drained after I am out of their company and extremely irritated at their over the top personality. They make me feel inadiquite as a person and I have to remind myself that I am a good person and not everyone in the world can be the same...or else it would be a boring world. I guess I also envy them some...their ability to be happy and make friends easily. But sometimes they just sort of corner me and I feel trapped by it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes they do..it makes me wonder sometimes if they have issues lol. i usually just stand back and let them blab i guess.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah. I wish I could be like that, just socializing with everyone, unafraid of whether on not you'll say the wrong or right thing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel more at ease around those type of people so I don't have to do so much talking. True, I do feel bad in the sense that they have more friends and are more comfortable around people and people like them more. And I do envy them in a way.
tscottm
tscottm
i get frustrated around them because i feel like they're not listening to what i say when i do say something. it seems like they just want to finish my idea for me and get back to doing all the talking. i do wish i could be more talkative and find things to say so easily, though. and i do envy their ability to make and keep friends.
scott
deleted_user
deleted_user
my best friend is like this... i use to get real jealous of her and sometimes i would be downright angry and nasty to her... it started taking a toll on our friendship so i made a decsion to accept her like she was and me like i am..it was hard but i have made some progress ..still somedays i look at her and wonder how the hell she can be so damn sociable!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Outgoing people can strike me either way. Some will be sensitive enough to help me feel comfortable. Others are so uncomfortable with my quietness that they make me feel even more anxious.
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
Outgoing people don't make me feel uncomfortable. In most cases I admire their ability to be so outgoing and often times which I could be so too.
cyn70
cyn70
They can be emotionally draining. The draining came from me wishing I was more like them. Now it's okay because I changed my way of thinking, and now it's refreshing to let them do the talking and admire their ability also (and take notes, lol.)
blooming19
blooming19
i feel that way sometimes too. especially when they won't stop talking to give anyone else a chance to talk.

i have a niece that is very outgoing and i love her dearly but when she leaves i feel like she sucked all of the energy out of my body and i am actually physically tired.