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Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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I hate presenting

Ashley_epy
Ashley_epy

So, in my AICE GEN class, we've been working on a project, where we had this poster, we drew and wrote stuff on it. When we were about done, we just turned it in; but there was a catch, I had to present. I'm a person with no friends which means I don't get to talk much with other people, which makes up much of my shyness. So, today was presentation day, every time, I present, I sometimes memorize lines to say during the presentation; WITHOUT MY notice, my WHOLE GROUP, decided to go 3RD, I didn't want to go THIRD, I wanted to go on Monday, so I could be more prepared. I wasn't prepared because I had like 4 quizzes/tests that I had to study for. They stood up and went to the present, I wasn't ready, my heart felt like it was going to explode. I held up the poster, and my legs were shaking, everyone did good, then it was MY turn, I worried, made LOTS of mistakes, stuttered, shook, paused many MANY times, and said um. . . which gets me points deducted, I went back to my seat and I just wanted to cry, I held back my tears for the whole day. Kinda started crying during lunch, went to the bathroom and washed my face. I couldn't stop crying. 


The bad thing about this is that my WHOLE group didn't even inform me that we were going to present. It's like they just forgot I was there, they didn't even ask for my opinion; which proved my point of me being invisible once again. 

standbyme
standbyme
That was SO inconsiderate of them to do that but kudos to you for getting through it. I detest public speaking myself, avoiding it at all costs if possible. When I was in school I hated projects where we had to present to the class. I hated the anxiety it provoked in me - the nervousness, heart racing and unsteady breathing. Honestly if I had a choice between having a tooth pulled and having to deliver a presentation it would be off to the dentist I go (Seriously getting my wisdom teeth removed wasn't as bad as I thought it would be). Teachers and Administrators should be more understanding that not every student does well with speaking in front of others and that it is often a burdensome obstacle to overcome. I'm pretty sure that you find the experience of speaking in front of others exceedingly dreadful as well. Don't beat yourself up about it, take it in stride and come back as a champion. Sometimes setbacks are set up for something better. Hopefully that won't happen to you again, but should you find yourself in the position of having to make a speech I think it's very helpful to speak on subject matter that you are passionate about that way you're speaking from the heart and not trying to remember a bunch of boring facts etc. I know that experience sucked but you got through it and there will be better and brighter days ahead. Thanks so much for reaching out and continue to do so. Give yourself the space and time to grow and improve because I know you can and will. We're here for you. Peace and Blessings. Until next time...
SarafinaJane
SarafinaJane
I know that you hated public speaking but YOU DID IT!!! You stuttered and did it! You faced a fear and if there is a way to speak to the other members of your group, tell them your concerns. Maybe you can look at your notes before the presentation. Make life yours. LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE. Next time you wil remember and do things differently. Adapt. Forgive yourself (though you have done nothing wrong) except to be nervous. No big deal. Go at your own pace and know that YOU CAN DO THIS!!! If people don't notice you, make yourself known. You have the right to respect and acknowledgment.