Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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don't know what to do anymore

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Hi everyone, i'm new to this group. Since I was about 12 or so my social anxiety got out of hand. I played sports but was too scared to even say hi to the people on my team. I moved to a new town when I was 14 which helped nothing. I quickly fell into a group of friends, but they honestly didn't really ask me anything about myself or fill me in on what was going on, despite the fact that I was brand new to the town and school. I hung out with them and became part of the group, but I rarely spoke. Right before high school started, they all ditched me. Stopped asking me to hang out with them, removed me from our group chat. I became extremely depressed and lonely as I didn't know anyone else and was also dealing with a severe illness. I'm now a senior in high school and although I have now made some acquaintances, I don't have any real friends. Even some of my oldest friends from my previous town make me nervous for some reason. Speaking to anyone scares me. I do have some people I kind of talk to at school and am friendly with, and I thought some of them might have started to become my friends as we were talking more and more. I've asked a lot of these people a fair number of times if they wanted to hang out (usually as a group), and not a single one of them has ever reciprocated. I feel so lonely and I'm tired of chasing after people. I feel like no matter what I do, no one actually cares about me. Can anyone relate/does anyone have some good advice?

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lol looks like i can't even get people in a support group to talk to me either.
Perpetual
Perpetual
I am also new to this and I can relate to you. Throughout school friend after friend would stop wanting to hang out with me then junior/senior year everyone left once my bf and I broke up.and they wanted to be his friend vs mine. I was super shy and never talked to anyone. If I was in a group I kept quiet always in the background. I was depressed and alone and started rebeling.. I think the only thing that saved me at this time was getting a job and making friends there with my coworkers. If you don't have one already try to find a job where you can be around people your own age and a job that's fun and u enjoy.
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Thanks for the advice. I'll be looking for a job over the summer. Good luck to you.
Silentone87
Silentone87
I can totally relate. I often wonder if my own insecurities are sensed by others and that's what drives people away. I just wish I was better at conversing with people and didn't get freaked out anytime a social situation arose. Good luck and when you find a solution, please let me know. :)
SarafinaJane
SarafinaJane
I have been looking into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is designed to help build confidence and help manage situations that cause fear. Maybe it could benefit you as well. There are lots of books if you would like to familiarize yourself with the type of therapy. You are not alone. Conversations can be really challenging. Just don't beat yourself up. Try to go to safe situations and just say HI. My yoga teacher says if you can't do a whole routine,do ONE posture. Then, next day or week, do ONE MORE. Eventually, I'll be doing a routine! Keep on trying!!!