I know how you feel. I see all my friends and how confident they are and I wish that I was like that too. But I have come to realize that God made me this way for a reason. I am not sure what it is yet but I know that it will happen one day. Just think...God made you the way you are, for the a reason that you and I might not know, but one day you will, and you will know how to fix it.

I've been that way too sometimes. Its never too late to change. Plenty of people are here to help you. Stay positive and take care

hi,
i know exactly how you feel. The thing is people don't think your dumb or anything like that. just think about people that you know who are also quiet, you don't judge them or think their dumb. Everyone, even those that appear confident are usually so focused on themselves to worry or judge others. :)

I so understand where you are coming from. I too have difficulty coming up with something to say to mine even though I have been in their lives for ten years too. I usually only say something when they address me directly. I find that asking them questions opens them up and then you can take it from there. Just be careful not to be known as 'the question girl'. If they love you, they do so for who you are, not for what you say or don't say:)

I am always the quiet one in social situations. Sometimes I never open my mouth to say even one word. I usually just smile and nod a lot. It's like I just feel too paralyzed to talk and self conscious about it too. I also have a hearing impairment, so that plays into the problem as well.

GOD i feel exactly the same - i get fears of people thinking i have some social disorder, or autism. or like you, the worst..... think i am stupid. but yno what, i have had my sane moments and have told myself that - who are they to judge? if they act as they wish, why can't I? if someone doesnt like it, thats their opinion.
but i can eat my words because i am still the same! i dont know what to do really, just give you encouragement and hope for the best.

P.s you should never be ashamed of who you are. you were brave enough to go on here x

You can overcome it...it takes a lot of living & challenging yourself though. Once you have some interesting things to talk about, you'll find that people are eager to listen to you talk.

Luckily, most people are so sedated & dull that you won't have to work very hard to find some interesting experiences to talk about.

I feel the same it is so flustrating being this way .I would love to go out and rattle to anyone with out constantly worrying what i'm going to talk about and bore people to death..

I feel the same it is so flustrating being this way .I would love to go out and rattle to anyone with out constantly worrying what i'm going to talk about and bore people to death..

i feel the SAME way. EXACTLY.

i feel the same confused! My hubby came off the phone from his mum a couple of days ago. We had invited her to come down and stay. On the phone she said she didnt want to as she feels unwelcome. I have known her for 20 years now and because of the way I am I am sad to say still uncomfortably shy around her although I do talk and she knows quite a bit about how I feel cos I opened up to her. Now she says this its like a kick in the teeth.