Short Stature Support Group
Shortness is a vague term without a precise definition and with significant relativity to context. Because of the lack of preciseness, there is often disagreement about the degree of shortness that should be called short.
Hello all,
I am in my early 30s, I have a good job, make good money. I am fit, have always been considered very smart, excelled academically when I was young, and excel at my job now. I have a good sense of humor and some people (ok, it's mostly my mother) even say I am handsome.
Normally, I should have a great life, but I am only 5'5 in height, and this ruins everything for me.
First, I have no dating life whatsoever, never had. I am always rejected, even by the short girls (usual explanation: I'm a great guy, but not just their type). Usually women don't even look at me. Second, my carreer is going slower than others, and I have several times being passed over for promotion by people objectively less capable, less hard working than I was. Seems the stereotypes regarding short men are verified for me.
I used to think that working on other aspects such as career, talent or accomplishment would allow to me to have a happy life, despite my short height, but life experiences showed me that no matter what you do, nothing can make up for being short. Seems it was less the case with past generations, but nowadays being short is really a handicap.
So basically I am becoming more and more self conscious, more and more depressed, more and more hopeless as time goes by, because there is nothing I can do about my height.
I looked into leg lengthening surgery a bit, but honestly I know I cannot bear the pain of it. Seems there is no other available option today, and no research in adult height increase field (weird, because there would probably be a huge market for it...).
So basically, I feel defeated, ready to give up....I have reached a point where I withdrew completely from life, and I only get out of bed to go to work.
Is there a way to deal with life as a short man? How do you deal with the frustration, and sometimes humiliation of it?
Thanks for your advice, sorry for the gloomy message.
I am in my early 30s, I have a good job, make good money. I am fit, have always been considered very smart, excelled academically when I was young, and excel at my job now. I have a good sense of humor and some people (ok, it's mostly my mother) even say I am handsome.
Normally, I should have a great life, but I am only 5'5 in height, and this ruins everything for me.
First, I have no dating life whatsoever, never had. I am always rejected, even by the short girls (usual explanation: I'm a great guy, but not just their type). Usually women don't even look at me. Second, my carreer is going slower than others, and I have several times being passed over for promotion by people objectively less capable, less hard working than I was. Seems the stereotypes regarding short men are verified for me.
I used to think that working on other aspects such as career, talent or accomplishment would allow to me to have a happy life, despite my short height, but life experiences showed me that no matter what you do, nothing can make up for being short. Seems it was less the case with past generations, but nowadays being short is really a handicap.
So basically I am becoming more and more self conscious, more and more depressed, more and more hopeless as time goes by, because there is nothing I can do about my height.
I looked into leg lengthening surgery a bit, but honestly I know I cannot bear the pain of it. Seems there is no other available option today, and no research in adult height increase field (weird, because there would probably be a huge market for it...).
So basically, I feel defeated, ready to give up....I have reached a point where I withdrew completely from life, and I only get out of bed to go to work.
Is there a way to deal with life as a short man? How do you deal with the frustration, and sometimes humiliation of it?
Thanks for your advice, sorry for the gloomy message.
Now that I'm done reveling in our shared misery, I do have some suggestions. I make these suggestions from a logical standpoint, so even If i may not always emotionally conform to them I know they are what I should be following. The big suggestion is that not going out and doing other stuff isn't going to change the fact that you're short. I figure you could focus on eliminating those negative thoughts, however, everpresent they may be. Just think of what would you rather be, an insecure, self concious short person or a confident, outgoing short person. I'm trying to choose the latter. Hope this helped any way.