Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
i was looking thru the responses in the rape group. some said what i did, of losing control of youre life, it not being youre life anymore, the person i was (it isnt me now)
not caring anymore an all that type of thing, with ptsd (snap).
but do you feel or find it like a rape ? i get that impression its like being raped. i also get the impression the responses are all pretty similar
do you think thats so, or does it depend on whats happpened to you.
i need to clarify that the attacks were after arguments about sex, they were sexual arguments, it wasnt just an argument, it was over sex. it wasnt about the dog or car, over intimate stuff too. as i said theyre was sexual content in other ways. but does that make
it feel that way, why we respond like we do an i went rapisttt, have you any thoughts on it ?
not caring anymore an all that type of thing, with ptsd (snap).
but do you feel or find it like a rape ? i get that impression its like being raped. i also get the impression the responses are all pretty similar
do you think thats so, or does it depend on whats happpened to you.
i need to clarify that the attacks were after arguments about sex, they were sexual arguments, it wasnt just an argument, it was over sex. it wasnt about the dog or car, over intimate stuff too. as i said theyre was sexual content in other ways. but does that make
it feel that way, why we respond like we do an i went rapisttt, have you any thoughts on it ?
Clearly, consent would not be given if the victim said, "no". But there are loads of situations where informed consent would not be given, even without saying "no". These include the victim:
* saying, "yes", then changing their mind and saying, "stop" (verbally or non-verbally, for example by closing legs)
* saying. "yes", but under duress / threat
* saying, "yes" to one thing, but having something else done to them
* saying "yes" to something without understanding what they are agreeing too (so the consent was not informed). This could be due to age, incapacity, language issues, deception or whatever.
* being too scared to say, "no", so saying nothing
* being incapacitated through, drink, drugs or anything else, so saying nothing
* being unconscious so unable to say anything.
I don't mean that a person has to actually SAY, "yes", each time. Consent can be non-verbal but clearly communicated and implied consent, such as within a stable relationship, is fine. Just so long as that consent can be freely withdrawn (sometimes very subtly) and such withdrawals are heard.