i usually talk by flashbacks....but i usually avoid it ...then forget what i talked about. or if i even started talking....and i wanna be organnized with this so it will be easier to remember

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Itzjustme:

I was going to say, "there is not right way to approach therapy," but, in fact, there is. The right way is YOUR way.

It's important you pay attention to your body. Listen for what it's willing/able to share. It has never lied to you. Never.

I'm not sure you can be "organized" about this since the subconscious will release whatever it's ready to release. Perhaps ask your therapist to keep notes and fill you in at the end of the session.

Best to you.
xx
SuzA

IMHO, it takes BOTH at the same time - what it takes is a counselor who can sense the right balance between each in a given session.

SA is the core problem, yet also creates a variety of symptoms and aftereffects. It is the symptoms and aftereffects that drive most people to counseling or therapy, yet it's not enough to merely pick at the edges and work on symptoms.

It also really really depends on your counselor and how attuned they are.

As a counselor, I'm admittedly biased on the subject: As an SA specialist, I have the luxury of assuming that if you walk into my office it's because of this - you didn't just pick my name out of a hat. Thus I don't need to mention the unmentionable up front because I'll assume it and we can focus on the symptoms while keeping the cause in the background for the moment.

thank you port :)

When I was in therapy, I just let it move on it's own; you may find trying to control it may be difficult because your psyche may have something else you need to deal with.

You don't need to worry about what you have dealt with, your therapist should keep a record of you discussed. It is not your job to keep everything organized, it is your therapist's job.

But still, you will know what works for you.

let your feelings do the the talking. let them guide you. I think if you try and set up an agenda for talking is not the best way to start. I suggest you talk about what ever you are feeling at the time. A good counselor will guide you thru this.

good luck

rich