Maybe you can do something to clean the energy out of the pj pants. I like pjs so I totally understand wanting to keep them. But, the energy of the abuse has to go!!
So, the Native Americans believe that you can smudge things. Smudging means to use smoke from herbs and things that will help cleanse it. Would you feel safe to do something like that? If not then you could just do something like imagining the bad stuff leaving the pants and floating out the window and far away. There are lots of neat ideas of things you could do!

If the pajamas bring back bad memories, I'd probably donate them to the Goodwill and buy a new pair to replace them. That way, you'll still have cute pajamas, but not ones that remind you of the bad stuff.

Kaylynelle, that is an awesome idea! I did a kind of personal smudging ceremony over a property that I owned. I had left my ex after starving and all sorts of other traumatic experiences in the cabin, then the cabin burned down the day after I left, the ex went even more crazy and lived there in a small travel trailer for a couple of years before he ran himself over with his own truck. The mojo and energies on that property were horrendous! My kids and I went out and mixed his ashes with herbs, and scattered them, then came back a couple of weeks later and did our own little smudging ceremony to cleanse the place.
Really Itzjustme,if you can do something like that with your PJs, it does help a lot!

I'd trash them. Stuff that triggers me just keeps triggering me and I am better off w/ out it. I dont like being wasteful. But I'd rather have things around that doesnt bother me and stuff I picked out for me.

i'll try the cleansing thing! but with out flames :)....no matter how much i put it in the wash it wont get clean...but ill try some way of doing it..:) thank you

You could cut a little square of these Pj's and get rid of the rest. Then you will still be able to feel them and see them. They also wont look like Pj's anymore.
Just a thought.
Lamby41 x

shread them..

Give them to a friend to "hold onto to".

1) see if you _really_ want them back after a while

2) if your true friend knows the story, see if she'll give them back or if she'd throw them out herself! ;-0

That's only my opinion ... good luck & let yourself feel good inside!

Hi Itzjustme:

You are important. And because you are important I hate to see you get re-traumatized everytime you put those pj's on. I understand you not wanting to throw them away; give them to the Salvation Army, you'll be helping someone who really needs them.

You don't need to continue to hurt yourself over this. You don't need to pickup where the perpetrator left off. Be kind to yourself. Put yourself first. Get rid of the trauma you willing put on your body everytime you wear those pj's.

Hugs to you.

i forgot abut this pst...thank you fr ur replies....im not wearing the oants now and i dnt even care if my aunt bught anymre...yesturday my aunt (abuser's mom) was saying i dnt need therapy and she was like we (her nd my mom cuz they pull ther hair) and i didnt know what to say cuz i cnt tell her well i do need therapy to help get the images of wat ur son did to me out of my head ..and his dad was there and everything so i cnt...i hate that my fucking fam doesnt take me seriously...this hurt me alot and i get the bad flashbacks ...i just dnt care anymore