i cant speak from a parent point of view, as i am not a parent, but i am the child(though i am an adult now). im sorry that something happened to you when you were a child, it sucks that people can do that to people who are so young and defensless. its bad enough when people do it to other adults.
i can say this though, my parents didnt know alot about things that had happened to me, and im not saying that your son would of been hurt, but its true sometimes parents may not know whats going on but they know somethings wrong. When i finally told my parents a lil of what had happened recently they said they could tell something was wrong, but they thought that i just wasnt ready to talk. So they waited till i was ready. i cant say how to bring up your son, but i know from the daughter side, that having parents who were open to listen and willing to wait till i was ready to talk rather than push it, made a difference.just be there for him and be open to talk, and if he needs to talk then he will come to you when he's ready, just let him know that your there for him if he ever does need to talk. i hope that helps, even if in just a lil way.

I can speak from both sides. As a child of abuse it me more than anything that my parent was not supportive and didn't believe me. I always wanted to ensure that as a mother, my child could talk to me about anything. We know our children and we know when something isn't right with them. Just days before my daughter made her outcry I had a strange feeling "that my daughter needed me more than ever". It scared me so much and the good thing about it is that I have always made sure the lines of communication were open between us. As long as you let your child know that you love them and are there for them no matter what they are going through and make them feel confident about it. It's hard to do when you also have to be the one to lay down rules. Sometimes it helps to remind them that you were their age at one time also and you've been through some difficult times of your own. We just have to get down on their level.

When you think of a child molester, you often picture a dirty old man. But did you know that child molesters can be parents, friends or trusted adults? Think of the following scenarios: Tina sits in a corner in her classroom, her mind wandering off her schoolwork. Kevin is aggressive, hitting other kids on the playground at recess. And Amber bursts into tears over any little change in her personal life. What do these three children have in common? All of them have been sexually abused and are afraid to tell an adult what has happened. Some of the common signs of child sexual abuse are the following:

Changes in behavior. A child may suddenly act shy or fear visits from friends and family. Your child may cry excessively and have extreme mood swings.

Depression. If your child is usually a happy child and suddenly is withdrawn from his or her peers, or be experiencing low self-esteem, this may be a sign of sexual abuse.

Sleep problems or nightmares. Your child may suddenly develop problems going to sleep and staying asleep. While it is common to have nightmares in some children, if your child is not prone to nightmares, he or she may have been sexually abused.

Bed-wetting or other changes in toilet training. If your child suddenly starts having frequent accidents, or suddenly cannot use the toilet after months of toilet training, he or she may have been molested.

School or behavioral problems. If your child has stopped doing his or her schoolwork, refuses to go to school, or is acting unusually aggressive at school, this can indicate sexual abuse.

A fear of certain people, places or activities, or intense clinging. When your child sees someone who has been molesting him or her, or they see a dark bedroom where the abuse took place, they suddenly get fearful of that person or place. If you take a child to the park and they no longer want to play on their favorite toys, or if your child starts clinging to you as they did as an infant, sexual abuse may have taken place.

Unexplained bruises or rashes. If your child has bruises that could not have come from playing, or a rash that cannot be explained, this may be a sign of abuse.
Itching, pain or rawness in their private areas. It may be common for some girls to have vaginal infections, but you still need to have a doctor check her out. For boys, it is not common to have these symptoms. All of these symptoms may be signs of molestation.

Plays games or draws aspects of sexual behaviors. This may be one of the best signs to find out if your child has been sexually abused. When children play out fantasies, a lot of times it is because something has happened to them. If you notice this behavior, you need to talk with your child about the game or picture, as it may be a sign of sexual abuse.

All of these signs of sexual abuse can be seen in children as young as two years old. Even though a child that young cannot grasp the abuse is wrong, he or she will develop problems related to the over stimulation and their inability to cope with the abuse. Older children may be scared to tell a parent what is going on because of threats made by the abuser. But if you notice any of these symptoms of child sexual abuse, please talk with your child. Some websites that are very helpful in further teaching are www.aacap.org, www.childsafe.org, and www.ncmec.org.