Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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star755 03/13/2015

I was sexually abused by a family friend for about 5 and half years from ages 10 till I was about 15 and it only stopped because he was moving and couldn't get me on my own. I just can't sleep and when I do manage to fall asleep all I can see him touching me and making me do things to him it makes me feel so angry and ashamed because my body responded to his touch I just really want to sleep but I'm scared I'm just going keep on having nightmares about him.

drbeaker 03/13/2015

There are some things you can do as self-help re sleep - see www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp for a great sleep booked, and one on abuse, too).

Have you seen a counsellor? That could help more than self-help stuff ever could.

Good luck.

LuckyEmpath 03/13/2015

I found my sleep didn't improve until I had processed much of the abuse.

I would recommend you start working with a therapist if you are not already. I do know some people here take meds to help them sleep but I did not. Hopefully someone who took some meds will see your post and offer up some suggestions for you. Talking about the abuse with a therapist and healing worked best for me though.

delicatedarling 03/13/2015

Like Lucky suggested, have you tried something to help you sleep? I have horrid insomnia, so I take Elavil. It's an anti-depressant, but on a low dosage, it helps keep migraines away, an helps me fall asleep an stay asleep. I also took Geodon for awhile, an that too, on a low dosage, is really good for sleep.

star755 03/14/2015

Thanks for all your replies I am on anti - depressants for depression for the last 2 years. I wish I could forget about what happen to me but I am reminded of the abuse all the time as I still live in the same house as most of the abuse happened. So I can't get away from the memories as I haven't got the money to move out my mum tells me I should just forget about what happen to me but it's not that easy god knows I wish it was.

foundlove 03/16/2015

Forgetting about the abuse is common with trauma as the human condition likes to stay away from harm. Remembering, and talking will get your feelings out there instead of talking. I feel I am doing a lot of improvement on my own without help from another. I am going to counseling, however, as I have never decided to do that before. I think counseling really is helping me much more, as I never did it before and tried to deal with it on my own. I definitely didn't get much accomplished on my own. Sometimes we do need others to help guide us, and counseling can be big help.

KAdunn 03/19/2015

Oh hon I know- I have zolpidiem and I still only managed to get about 4 hrs of sleep last night. it will be ok.

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