Thank God not all men/boys are like that. Forgive my prejudice, sports fans and athletes, but it don't think you're going to find the most evolved specimens on a football team. Gang mentality, predator mentality, violence - all part of team sports it seems, not that it has to be that way. What kills me is all the BULLSHIT hypocrisy in this country, pretending as if A unrelated to B etc. So much doublethink.

The socialization of men is so messed up.

Men scare me. Rationally I know it is not all men but emotionally men scare the crap out of me. I have only had bad experiences.

I have no idea how these men came to view this woman as less than human. Why did they treat her like that???? How do they view their mothers? Do they have sisters? How did they learn to dehumanize and hate women so much?

Why do they think their penises and urges give them power?

Why do they think it is their right.

If I had a super power I would kill them dead. Dick first.

The socialization of everybody is so messed up...but yeah, men especially.

I got into this long heated discussion about rape and what rape is and such...and during it I found ...I think it was this study:
http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/10/world/asia/asia-rape-report/

And the study found that the biggest reason men rape is that they feel entitled to sex...followed by, well doing it for entertainment. Just something to do.

Interesting opinion article:
http://www.salon.com/2013/10/24/5_ways_sexual_assault_is_really_about_entitlement/

"...Our culture essentially gives rapists the message that theyre entitled to be believed and respected; their victims arent. "

Interesting article, Hylie.

I was not surprised by the reasons they give. I have experienced sexual assault as a form of punishment as well as because the man felt entitled and my feelings didn't matter.

When this was perpetrated by someone that I trusted, and said that they loved me I felt completely powerless and ashamed. The other feeling that comes through is a feeling of being broken inside and a very deep loneliness. I can feel it now, just remembering. It all comes back

I know about that broken, empty feeling very well...
You have a right to that feeling...but remember it's a canned feeling, from way back then...

Right now? you are a fierce, beautiful woman who's survived, accomplished, and fought hard to live on her own terms. A warrior. Someone you can be proud to be.

"the credit goes to the woman in the arena."

I'm sorry you went through that, Cecil. The thing to remember is this: they dehumanize us and we feel worthless, but at the same time what have they made themselves but vile monsters? Are THOSE human beings? Not in my book. I agree with killing them dead. They have lost the right to be called human, they are filth.

By the way, I also wondered what makes some men hate women so much? My internet research brought me to an article (on Jezebel?) about narcissistic men who feel entitled and are angry at women who stand between them and what they want, which is to have sex with those women. Sounded just like my dad, feeling sorry and aggrieved because he had been unjustly deprived.

I hate to see boys disfigured and wounded by the cruel demands and constraints on their emotional selves in society, but I really want to puke when I see a boy being pumped up and kissed up to (instilled with a sense of entitlement) - by his MOTHER.

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Thanks for the kind words. The article triggered me. It should enrage everyone. Men need to learn what being a man is and it isn't proving themselves by dehumanizing others or bullying, or fighting. It would mean so much if men took a stand against this instead of sitting quietly on the sidelines.

Sons shouldn't be raised as if they have all the power simply because of their genitals and girls shouldn't be taught that their biggest value is their sexuality. The media doesn't help. Don't get me started on Brats dolls....

It makes me want to be an advocate for EVERY sexual abuse/assault survivor out there. They say in the article "one schools adjudication of a rape complaint amid a roiling national debate over how best to stop sexual assaults on campuses."... How to best stop it? Really? They don't know? How about holding the bastards accountable? I think that would be a good start. And instead of caring about their precious football team and how often they win (and money. You know money is involved) how about expelling the low life scum for raping a poor helpless defenseless woman? And then the school should pay for this woman's therapy that she will need for next 10 years while she tries to heal from what happened?

Too few criminals are held accountable for their actions. This includes politicians and the people in schools like this who use politics and turning a blind eye to keep their jobs and make money. Not only should these kids have one hell of a mark against their records for the rest of their lives the committee who decided to let them go free should also. Making it impossible for them to ever get jobs again.

That's my rant. I, like all of you, could say soooo much more on this subject but...well....I won't. Instead I'll go down stairs and punch my punching bag for a while to get this rage out of me.

How to stop it? Felony convictions. Jail. That would work.

I know from my own troubled Teenhood that I could very easily have committed rape. The TV forced Sexual gratification down the throats of Boys my age and, having been abused myself, I had no concepts of boundaries.

I guess us Blokes don't like being challenged. A lot of it comes from codependent Family dynamics. (I'm from Rural Ireland where you were expected to mass produce kids, and my Family couldn't as Gran had to have a hysterectomy after Dad was born) I feel that I was robbed of a family and resent these bolshie Sisters/Cousins who say, "Family!" every second sentence.