Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Tonight I realized that my significant other doesn't know how to handle my emotions. It isn't that he doesn't want to; he doesn't understand.
I have been acting strong for people since I was 8 years old. Whether it was my Mom or my Brother. All I am right now is negative. NOT that I choose to be. I want to be able to reach out to my best friend(My significant other). I have told him that I have felt like he has not been my best friend since he moved out. Tonight showed that it is hard to understand. I love him with everything and I don't know whether to be honest.... Or hide it. I have been struggling with everything for about 6 months because I am scared for my future with him...... HOW do you explain to a person that has been gifted by god a really decent life to somebody who has had to struggle EVERYDAY? He is trying to be better. BUT how do I do the same but give him the what he needs?
I am in a similar situation - I've been married 25 years to someone who comes from a loving, supportive family, is very socially and professionally successful, and is not introspective at all. But of course his family was not perfect, he too has wounds from childhood, because everyone does.
But such people will find it hard to understand the daily struggles of someone like you or me who is dealing with fallout and fighting for stability every day.
What I do is a) see a therapist and b) get support from my friendships on DS and my one sister who understands. With my husband, I give him the big picture story but don't share everything because believe me, he would not be intersted. He is like many men in that he doesn't want to hear about a problem unless he can fix it. I have had to teach him over the years that all I need from him is someone to listen and care. That it's actually good if I cry and he shouldn't try to make me stop! And so on.
I hope this addressed what you were asking.