Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I am feeling so many things lately. I have been working on accepting the feelings without thinking I need to react or act on them. I am trying not to fight the emotions and just let them come, acknowledge them and move on. That being said; I just feel odd. I feel some peace, horniness, grief, general sadness and fear.
My abuser and abuse has crossed my mind a lot . I have been talking about it in therapy some. That is moving along but I worry I move too slow.
I have lots of worries but I am trying not to pay too much attention to them because when I do they get amplified.
I worry my therapist secretly hates me. I worry I don't progress like I should. I worry that I will lose my job. I worry I won't be able to pay my bills. I worry about my health.
I realized that love is almost impossible for me. I realized I am terrified of men I am attracted to. I think I may have hap "puppy love" for my abuser and he destroyed that part of me. I realize I am starting to be angry about that.
My therapist asked me what was so scary about men that I am attracted to. What might happen if I was attracted to someone?? I couldn't answer. All I can say is that I am scared.
I still want to cry. I feel like I'm not done. I want to let someone in. I don't want to keep my big hard wall up anymore.
I feel so much right now but in a quiet way and it is ok. Just different for me.
My abuser and abuse has crossed my mind a lot . I have been talking about it in therapy some. That is moving along but I worry I move too slow.
I have lots of worries but I am trying not to pay too much attention to them because when I do they get amplified.
I worry my therapist secretly hates me. I worry I don't progress like I should. I worry that I will lose my job. I worry I won't be able to pay my bills. I worry about my health.
I realized that love is almost impossible for me. I realized I am terrified of men I am attracted to. I think I may have hap "puppy love" for my abuser and he destroyed that part of me. I realize I am starting to be angry about that.
My therapist asked me what was so scary about men that I am attracted to. What might happen if I was attracted to someone?? I couldn't answer. All I can say is that I am scared.
I still want to cry. I feel like I'm not done. I want to let someone in. I don't want to keep my big hard wall up anymore.
I feel so much right now but in a quiet way and it is ok. Just different for me.
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
( Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended On It. ) It helped me a bit.
Don't just use 1 tool, use them all. I think anything you could do to raise your self esteem would help you a lot.
Cracked and stumbling, still moving forward. Drew.
I am doing my best to work the therapy. It is just hard. I am working with a male and I really like him but I don't think I have ever trusted a man the way I need to trust him. I;m getting there but slow. I feel like a child when I am in a session.
I haven't tried any books in a long time. I'm sure there are some good ones out there but so many are just babble and fluff. I could give it another look. Maybe hit up our big Barnes and Noble tomorrow ...the big store has a nice used section.
I'll take more suggestions if anyone has then. I had one suggestion for a DBT workbook that sounds promising.
Find and employ as many tools as you need... For some it is just therapy, others need more... And take all the time you need to feel whole.
I feel the same fear and can't explain why, it's just there. But the urge to cry has passed. Stay strong, it will pass for you as well.
Everything you are feeling is normal.
Take care.
I was talking with my therapist and I said I needed to be with a man who had issues as massive as mine.... a level playing field if you like... otherwise I would feel way out of my depth
The good thing is I don't have anger and hate for random male strangers anymore.