I understand how you feel. I've worked with my inner children/parts during my healing. I started with 14 parts then two of them split into 2 and one split into 3 for a total of 18 parts.

I have worked with a therapist...and a whole lot on my own....to help my inner children heal and grow up.

You can heal and you can all become one again.

I don't even know where to begin. I guess it should be with a therapist but I have no idea how to go about getting one now.

A good place to start may be with your insurance provider. Some insurance providers require you to use a Dr/therapist from their list - if you give them a call they can provide you with the full list for your area.

If your insurance allows you to see anyone then it's a matter of looking in the phone book or online for psychologists in your area. You can usually send an email to them and ask questions such as "what do you specialize in" or "do you take my insurance" etc. It is best to find a therapist who specializes in sexual abuse or abuse in general. If you do not wish to share with them just yet why you want to see them you can simply say that you have a 'past trauma' and leave it at that. There is no need to divulge everything in an email or even in the first few sessions with a therapist.

I would recommend that you contact several different therapists so you can get a feel for what each one is willing to offer as help for what you are going through. Then, start making appointments with them. After the first few sessions you should know if you like the therapist and if it seems they are a good fit for you. Don't be discouraged if they are not though because not every therapist is right for us. I have been to several who were not a good fit so I left them and went elsewhere until I found the right therapist for me. That's a good reason to have several lined up, just in case you feel you need to move to the next one.

I hope this helps get you started.

Take care

Hi Luckyempath,

thanks so much for your advice. Unfortunately, I live in the UK not the US and have no insurance or anything like that. I guess I would probably go on some sort of waiting list for months but I'm not really sure.

We have those types of programs here in the US too and I would imagine the waiting lists are quite long. But the sooner you get your name on a list the sooner you will receive help.

Omg I totally know what you mean! I am split too. I have different parts from dissociating and it's hard to explain. But, I understand..

Apparently my name has actually been on a waiting list for psychotherapy for about 2 years now, but I am still nowhere near the top. How f***ing ridiculous is that. I wasn't even aware of this.

Hi - I am also very much split into pieces. I had a dream in my early twenties where a man I know told me "Your problem is schismism." Isn't that funny? Not the problem, but the dream ...

I saw a very good therapist in the UK for I think 40 pounds. If you can afford it, you won't have to wait. I hope that is possible for you. Otherwise, you can try to work on your own. It is also possible to work with a close friend in offering each other a kind of reciprocal therapy. It seems a bit scary to contemplate, but if you're interested and you have such a friend, I'll find the website reference for you.

Hi Donna, I would be very interested. I would also like to know if anyone can recommend any books or work books.

hello the book that helped me the most I did a lot on my own, is COURAGE TO HEAL some claim it is outdated but I believe it is more relavent than ever

Thank you, I shall have a look for it on amazon.

Hello Pixelfairy

Here is a list of all the support services in England. See if there are any near you and maybe ring them and ask for some advice.


http://naasca.org/Groups-Services/ENGLAND.pdf

Hi Pixel. Here are a couple of links to the website of Pete Walker, which is a fantastic resource that I urge you to explore.

Here is the general website link: http://www.pete-walker.com/

Here is a link about healing with the help of close friends. To be honest, I am leery of this because too many things could go wrong. I would consider it a last resort:

http://www.pete-walker.com/therapistHeal.htm

This link is a list of recommended books. I myself got a tremendous amount of understanding from "Trauma and Recovery". Understanding is not the same as healing, but it is very valuable all the same.

http://www.pete-walker.com/pdf/bibliotherapy.pdf

Good luck, and please continue to share with us here. I have found this website and the support and insight of friends and strangers here to be invaluable.

you are not alone I work hard to over come abuse it steals our precious vulnerable selves as if it wants our very soul as women please don't give up I have seen parts in everyone I know but some of us had to find more due to the splitting that occurs with trauma and abuse , I want to be here for anyone I am sixty now a warrior of sorts and want to reach out to anyone who needs my courage I have a lot of it,,, but need more resources and empowerment we are in this together all of us