I can see where you would really have some issues with this. I would suggest giving the counselor a try. It won't hurt you and could actually help you. You really have nothing to lose by going and checking it out. If it doesn't work, then you stay depressed until something helps you out of it. If it does work, you work through the depression and gain some understanding of how you feel and what to do, how to take this news. Nothing to lose, everything to gain just by one decision to TRY counseling and being honest about how you feel with someone that may be able not only to understand, but also to help. Please give it a second thought. This must be extremely upsetting for you.

Kristin,

Why do you not want to see a counsellor?

I avoided one for years and regret it because my marriage could be so much better now. At this point my wife and I are teetering on the edge - I've started therapy & we realize that many of what we thought were "her" issues are really "my" issues that I've been masking or denying.

My reasons for avoiding therapy were dispelled once I actually started - so I deeply regret having not gone sooner.

If your family knows and your dad still does not control himself he needs help - even if it requires the police to force him to take it (sorry if it hurts, but he does not have the right to hurt other people).

That's coming from the heart - it sounds as though you really could use someone who knows what to do in your corner.

Best wishes.

Thank you
kristin