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deleted_user
deleted_user
so, we are moving into a neighborhood with two registered sex offenders within two blocks. the town is pretty small so it's hard to avoid them. question is, why are they there in the first place? according to the department of corrections, neither of them is from illinois. one is from virginia and the other is from indiana. they have no link to this town so what put them here. answer, the government! sooooo....my question to you is, (keep in mind my hubby is a police officer) if this was your situation, what would you do to let them know you are onto them and to STAY AWAY FROM YOUR BLOCK, YOUR KIDS, YOU! how would you do it? i want them to know i am strong willed and not afraid of them! i will do everything in my legal power to keep them away! one is selling his house and moving away! thank you i say to him. move away to a field and live with the mice for the rest of your years for all i care. the other is still a block away.

any advice.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, the fact that your husband is a police officer will probably help your case a lot. Maybe let them know of that.
And as for why they're there, I doubt we'll never know. I have no idea why on earth these guys seem to pop up wherever they want to. I wish there were more laws regarding sex offenders and where they're allowed to live.
I wish I could offer you more help, but I'm not sure what else to tell you. I think your strong willed attitude towards the safety of yourself and your children are really going to take care of you here.
You'll be in my prayers, friend. BIG hug and lots of love!
deleted_user
deleted_user
They probably fled b/c everyone around them knew they were sex offenders. Scaredy Cats!

Glad the one is moving!

IDK about confronting them. I can understand you wanting to confront them and show them YOU are in Power and Control...but what if it would backfire, and make something 'click' in the offender's brain??

I think it's good security your DH is a police officer.

I'd tell your kids to stay away from him and that house. Show them his picture. Tell them to notify you if he approaches them, or any other stranger for that matter.

I teach my kids we do not tell or keep secrets. If anyone tells you to keep a secret, you tell Mommy and/or Daddy. No matter if they threaten to hurt you or hurt Mommy or Daddy, no one can hurt you if you tell, we'll protect them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Also realize the laws of each state. Some guys that are 18 and have sex with a 16 year old have to register as "sex offenders". Personally I find that to be total b.s. I wouldn't "confront" anyone. I assume you know that these guys are pedophiles? There are no laws that keep them from moving where they want except in some states CHILD offenders cannot live within a certain distance from schools and daycares. And they have to register everytime they move. That doesn't mean they all do, especially the hardcore sick offenders.
The info. is public, including the offenses. Keep your kids away, that's what I would do. I don't believe in public "lynchings" so to speak, but that's just me. Maybe because of the history of past generations in my families....:-P Use your LEGAL power like you said and good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
If I were in this situation I would put two extra locks on each of my doors, locks on my windows, sleep with a knife under my pillow, and get a guard dog, but that's just good old paranoid me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As for warning the offenders to let them know you're onto them, I'd post them an anonymous letter that says "We're watching you, so don't try anything stupid or else. Have a nice day". Seriously I would do that.
Falselyaccusedbutmovingforward
Falselyaccusedbutmovingforward
look lemme simply say this as a S.O not all on the registrey are bad....some of us got into very fucked up situations such as my self (leaving for basic training and decided to go to a party and got drunk met a girl who told me she was one age and turned out to be another. Slept with her not knowing and now im a life register. ) you have to understand we are not all bad people and people just see one thing and judge not saying trust them around your kids or anything but people need to understand that sometimes we get the shitty end of the stick and its not are fault before you get up in arms if your husband is a police officer he can pull records to see just what exactly they did dont judge until you know. Personally people doing that and judging me by what they see has very closely come to driven me to suicide i sit on the edge not sure how much longer i can take it. So please find out what they did before you think a S.o is a bad person.
faeryedark
faeryedark
There's lots of a offenses that can get a person registered in this country, keep that in mind. Not all are child related
Also, there's probably far more than 2 offenders in your area. Most have not been caught, and aren't on any registry.
As for what to do, DON'T be confrontational or go vigilante', that could get you in trouble.
Your best bet is, to let your kids know to stay far away from that address, and otherwise ignore them.
faeryedark
faeryedark
FalselyAccused,
Exactly!
Torturedsoul
Torturedsoul
I just recently moved to a new town that is very small. Tonight I actually looked up registered sex offenders through the states website and there were 5. Some of them listed what the charges were and other said nothing. Most just said sexual assault on a child. I, myself am more scared about the ones that haven’t been caught and charged than the ones that have. There was also this one that was listed as a multiple offender and there was 3 charges and convictions from 3 separate times. I am very Leary of him but I am just going to make sure I stay away from his area and he can’t be next to my kids.
marsianman
marsianman
To those that want, or suggest, posting open letters, or confronting, your local sex offender, there laws prohibiting harassment. These action are such and will get you some of your own time in prison.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
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