I can't stand to see my abuser

Yeah, I have. Do you have to see him very often? Is there anyone you can tell?

My family knows. He's my step brother. They just think I should be over it. Stop letting it effect my life. But seeing him around town. On my family's Facebook and snapchat makes me sick... just didn't know if there is a key to forgiveness? I thought time would cure. It dosnt work like that aparentlly.

Your family's demand that you "just be over it" is completely unreasonable. It is completely normal that you are NOT able to just get over it. This person deeply traumatized you, and maybe people who haven't been through it can't understand how deep a trauma it is. But being sexually abused is like having a precious part of yourself murdered - and would they ask you to "just be over it" if you had to see someone who had murdered a loved one? You might not be able to get through to your family, especially since families often prefer not to fully own the devastation of sexual abuse, but you should know within yourself that your reaction is completely normal and understandable.

Maybe you can get counseling because it sounds like you are not finding any support there for your very normal and usual reactions to the situation. Otherwise, feel free to post here - we get it!

I feel that way about my abuser, my uncle, too. But I also feel sorry for him, he was abused on a farm as a child, is mildly retarded, and is an XYY man, who never would be able to live a normal life or have a loving partner. But it still creeps me out.

I am also really hurt that someone feels that way about me. I had a crush on a male dance instructor and didn't realize I was having hormone problems after a surgery. I guess our dancing got too sexual, although I never touched him inappropriately, and he ended up feeling traumatized. This taught me to have more compassion for men and not to always see myself as a victim. It hurts so much that he can't stand me.

For weeks I swore I kept seeing my rapist everywhere and in 2 places at once. He's either a very skilled demon or My mind was playing tricks on me. Most likely it's that your mind is replaying them and it's not uncommon to have that happen after an assault.

Oh wait I read your post wrong. No you don't have to see him or be around him if it makes you uncomfortable. It's not just something you "get over".

I keep my distance, whenever I can.

Thank you guys for the support... I try to avoid it at all costs... thought I was doing good. Then just saw "my brother" ( step brother) post a picture with him on facebook. How do you stop these phisical reactions? A picture shouldn't make me puke shouldn't make me shake... I want to just cut everyone out... but what kind of life is that... torn... I've tried counseling for years. Every med u can think of... I don't want to be numb but I don't want to feel this...

EMDR therapy finally stopped alot of the PTSD symptoms I was having.You could always discuss it with your therapist. They may know someone they can recommend. If you google searh EMDR therapy you will find out all about it. It's really helped me.

I saw my abuser for many years and it made me physically sick every time. Your best bet is to move away or just straitout refuse to be around him. You don't need to be put in a position of where you could be hurt by him. Even though my abuser has passed away now it still creeps me out when I visit my aunt. It is like a total shrine to him. I have just stopped going to visit because it is just too uncomfortable for me and brings back memories. Do what is best for you.

I moved from my home state to another state when I became older. I wonder if I did it so I would not have to see my uncle, who molested me when I was 6 every night for 2 years.
I saw my uncle recently, about 30 years have passed since the molestation. I was surprised how I handled myself. I didn't kill him. I will never be his friend. I haven't approached my uncle about the abuse. I think it would be better for me to have a conversation with him about his disgusting actions. I'm just not ready yet.
My elderly grandmother lives with him now. I'm in a pickle, I want to visit my grandmother, but I'm feeling a certain way about seeing him. I'm praying to God about it. Whatever I chose it's important that I am okay with my own decision.

EMDR - sounds like a great idea. I was in therapy for 4 years and in that time I turned to yoga. I took the course and I am a yoga instructor now. For about 4 years now I do yoga everyday now. Yoga helps you to focus. I use the breath to focus. Over the years I can say that the yoga has me deal with the trauma the abuse has brought to my life. EMDR has a lot to do with eye movement, so does yoga and tai chi.

I tried EMDR had the scariest flashbacks.... thank you though

oh yes you will have flashbacks but if you have a trained therapist they can help you with that. I had a resurgence of side effects and body memories and I fought thru them to get them out. OMG it was like pulling out a splinter that had gotten lodged in really tight. But when It was all done I stopped having nightmares and some days I don't even have to take a sleeping pill to sleep.