Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Time2livelife
Time2livelife

ok, me and my cpn have been talking about my need to say things about my abuse but me needing to see a female.


the psychologist will take months to wait to see. He sugguested i see the incest and sexual assult councelling service in my area. Ive advioded it for so long now. 



So i go to google and type it in "incest and sexual assult" soon as i started typing i paniced. Incest.... makes me feel dirty and ashamed like its my fault again. They only deal with sexual abuse so soon as i walk through the door the shame begins cos everyone knows why im there. There isnt any trust building first then reveal when im ready. Gross individual i a

LuckyEmpath
LuckyEmpath
I understand your trepidation about going to a counseling service that already knows why you are going - as if you have a sign that tells them what happened to you. It is so important for your own healing that you do go though. Even though they may know why you are there I can't imagine, and I definitely hope, that they would not force you to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable. I hope they understand the benefits of building trust first. If you get someone who pushes you faster than you are comfortable going then it is your right to stop seeing them. This is your healing and no one can force you to move faster than you want to go or make you talk about it.

I hope you will give it a try at least once. Yes, there will be emotional backlash such as feeling dirty and ashamed but if you keep going that will eventually heal. And just remember, you can leave any time you want and you can end therapy any time you want. This is YOUR healing and you are in charge of it. ((Hugs))
donnawanda
donnawanda
For what it's worth, I feel the same way about using that word and applying it to myself - I feel a lot of shame about it. Logically I know it's not my shame and not my fault, but those words are powerful. Still, if I was you, I would go and try that place. They ought to know how to treat you with the delicacy you need and deserve.
WallbrownF
WallbrownF
Time, from one human to another, know that I care. Know that there is love and understanding for you here. I want happiness for you. It is not your fault. None of it was your fault. You cannot help the actions of others. There is no shame in trying to get help, which you need. You are not gross because someone else abused you. You should not feel ashamed because someone else abused you. I know that it is hard, but please keep trying. Keep telling yourself these things. Keep coming back to us and letting us know about your progress. LE is right, go as slow as you need to go. Just keep trying. Like DW said, I'm sure that they know how delicate the situation is for you. Love & Hugs

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