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Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Possible covert sexual abuse?

esmith805
esmith805

Hi everyone,


So I'm new at putting my thoughts about this into words so please bare with me. I'm really confused if I was covertly sexually abused as a child. When I was younger, 8-10 and maybe longer, my uncle would babysit me often. He was my absolute favorite person in the world. He would always bring his camera over, and we would play games that involved him taking pictures of me naked, jumpropping naked, play some form of truth or dare that invovled stripping. He would also roll his shorts up when he would sit so his penis would be hanging out the bottom. He would get upset if I didn't let him take my picture, or asked if I could keep my clothes on. After I moved and went through puberty, I forgot about these events. He also ended up being a lowlife who I haven't seen in a very long time. They reaccured to me within the past month or so, and I don't know if I remember everything about it. I constantly felt like the people I love and trust are going to betray me and get anxiety when it comes to things like sending nudes, struggle saying no to people, have issues trusting people, and undisclosed anxiety.


What is this? Am I crazy or being dramatic, or was I potentally abused?

donnawanda
donnawanda
Yes you were abused, and no, you are not being dramatic. You were a child with an open heart full of love, and he used you and betrayed your trust.

By the way, you wrote that you have trouble sending nudes. Please don't do that!!! I wish all young people understood that there is never any good reason to do that - it can come back to haunt you.

I hope you will think about therapy to address the issues you have as a result of your uncle's sexual abuse and betrayal of trust.
Beatha
Beatha
I agree, you were abused. I'm sorry for what happened and your issues trusting people and saying no. You're certainly not crazy or dramatic. As donnawanda said, a therapist or counselor could help you heal.

I also second donnawanda in not sending nudes. You were abused as a child, please, don't do anything that can leave you open to new abuse. Stay safe.
Beatha
Beatha
I'm sorry, I think what I wrote first can be misunderstood: Of course, sexual abuse is never the fault of the victim. Esmith, what your uncle did was entirely his fault. If anybody reads this who has sent nudes and then been harassed: It's not your fault. The blame is always on the abuser, no matter the circumstances. Sorry for not saying this clearly from the beginning.
nykkijones90
nykkijones90
You were definitely abused! You are not crazy, you went through something traumatic and in my psychology class i learned that sometimes when you go through something traumatic like that at a young age sometimes it can take a very long time for the emotions to come out and for you to experience the feelings you felt in having this happen to you.... i am so sorry this happened to you and i share your pain!
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